Muslimah's ONLY please...?

Question

When you're on your period, and don't want anyone else to know when you're not fasting, what should you do? I don't wake for morning breakfast coz I usually feel like utter c**p. But I don't want everyone to know I'm on. What should i do?

Answer 1

Just tell your mom, or tell everyone that you already ate.

Answer 2

Having a period is NOTHING to be ashamed or embarrassed about.  It shows that you're a healthy young woman.  But if you really don't want anyone to know just say you're not hungry.

Sorry I'm not Muslim but wanted to answer your q.

Answer 3

all religious duties are not prohibited during periods,,,

why to act dumb hypocrite,when you are in periods ? why you have to be embarassed by something you can not control.

what if you start periods during hujj ? will you leave tawaff !!

to hide something which comes natural you have to lie,you have to to do so many acts ,just to hide something natural as if it was a sin !

if you were having periods and if you are certain that it is lawful not to fast ,salat,then why to lie or shy  ?

nothing to be ashamed of !

yes rumaitha is right..hide in a closet,as if you did a SIN,unknowingly blaming Allah Allmighty for your periods and committing a sin !

Answer 4

Assalamu alaikum

I understand that eating in public should not be done in Ramadhan, but I really can't understand why you could not eat in your own home when you are on your period?

After all every woman gets periods and will have a week they are not eating, maybe this can be a bit embarrassing in front of your brothers or something but they will have to be mature, get over it and understand.

I don't think there is anything that embarrassing about being on your period, it is a natural thing and the Prophet (saw) and the Quran actually talks about menstruation and the rulings concerning it so why shouldn't we?

I have sons who are growing up, one week a month I explain that Mum gets a bit unwell, this happens to all women, and so I do not fast or pray then. In Ramadhan when I need to eat I sit down and eat.

I don't think you should force yourself to get up for suhoor or anything (unless you have to cook some food for the kids like me!) I know you need more rest during your period and can feel quite unwell, so Allah has given you this mercy not to fast. You should take the mercy from Allah rather than get up at 4am and have to eat in a cupboard through the day. If you are really desperatly embarrased. eg your father is hosting an imam convention, then I would try to find a quiet room and time to eat when no-one can see you.

Best of luck dear sister but please don't feel offened by my nasihah, I feel it is best not to use the word cr*p, it isn't nice,

Your sister in Islam

Answer 5

There's no reason for you to hide your period from your family. You don't have to describe it in graphic detail, but if anyone asks why you're eating just say "I'm on my period" or, if you prefer, a euphemism like "it's that time of the month" or "this is my week off". Your menstrual cycle is a natural and healthy thing - and it's not a secret, either! Everyone knows about it, even men. You can keep your period a private experience if you wish, but don't ever feel ashamed of it.

Answer 6

asalaam aleykum, having a period is a normal thing but if you dont want them to know just dont eat or drink in front of anyone and if you are do it in private. but if your family finds out, theres nothing wrong with that. allah does not put anything in our lives that we cant handle.  

Answer 7

Basically tell them you are not well and try not to eat in their presence.

Answer 8

In our family, the girls usually wake up for Suhoor before the guys anyway so when we're on we let each other know and if dad or brother ask where we are (the ones who are on) mam says we've already eaten. Or sometimes later on we say we forgot to wake up for Suhoor... And we don't eat in front of the guys, only in front of each other or when we're on our own. You shouldn't be ashamed of it, especially in front of your mam and sisters, it's a girl thing, so all the girls are in on it together :)

Answer 9

Aslaamo aleikum,

Not sure who you live with, but usually family is quite intuitive in these cases by just the way you look or act, even if it's not Ramadan and it's just for prayers, etc...

Either way, you can just say that you're not well from the evening before and will not join them... or if you feel better, then wake up and have some breakfast, take an advil and enjoy their company.

Noone will take offense to it and most won't assume or dig deep to find out.

Wasalam.

Answer 10

I usually have 1 light meal during lunch time. I sneak a cheese sandwich with a small juice box into my room.

Also, I have a small cupboard on my desk in which I lock in few snacks like chocolates, nuts and chips. I prepare that cupboard before Ramadan. Make a small place in your room to keep some healthy snacks and small bottles of water. Make sure the door is locked when you eat.

However, stop eating at least 4 hours before Iftar time so you can eat a normal meal with the family.

Answer 11

You don't have to say it, fair enough because some people do find it embarassing talking about their period, but I don't see why they shouldn't know! And what's wrong if they do know? I don't see the harm in people knowing you're not fasting. It's totally natural and acceptable to not be fasting when on. So why hide the fact? Fair enough, I wouldn't expect you to eat in front of someone whom is fasting, that'd be a bit inconsiderate. Don't worry about it sis. Don't think about lt as like they know.

I don't think it's right to lie and say you're fasting when you're not, it's just not right, why lie about something like that when you have a totally valid reason for not fasting.  

Answer 12

Don't eat or drink in front of anyone, even if it means hiding in a closet for lunch.

EDIT:

Saying your sick won't work since it'll last for a whole week or so and they're bound to figure it out. So, if you really don't want anyone to know, eat somewhere no one will see you. And if you happen to get caught, then you can use the excuse of not feeling good or that you had to take medication. Don't use the same excuse everyday, only when you are caught.

Answer 13

I'm about to get my period really really soon. I'm gonna get it on the day ramadan starts. So what I'm gonna do is put some bottled water and a couple of snacks in my room so that when I'm hungry I can go in there and eat. I hope it works for you too inshallah.

Answer 14

i am a muslim and in my house hold when i am not fasting i dont hide. naturally i dont eat in front of my fasting family but i eat in my room. if they ask me i tell them that i am sick. if they ask more i say that its "acidity" and that  the doctor told me to stay off fasting for some time. obviously i keep the broken "rozas" after eid. i donot hide from my family during those days. i prepare iftar with them, pray the rosery beads and listen to islamic programmes with them. it is nothing to be ashamed of. it is natural and ALLAH is forgiving. thats why in islam you can keep your broken ramadans after the eid.  

Answer 15

Haha, I used to find this very embarrassing at school where I'd be eating and a Muslim guy would walk by, staring at me as if he was wondering, "What the heck is she doing??" I usually try not to eat around others, especially if they are Muslim. But that’s more because I don’t like to eat in front of people who are fasting than for myself. Still, to answer your question directly, just sneak food around and during prayer, say you will pray in your room instead of with the family.

Answer 16

Haha. I remember when I was young, I used to give my sister a lot of stick for missing her fasts, I was 12 and she was 14, and I just couldn't understand why my parents were so lenient. It's like everyone wakes up for Sehri, but her, and I was like "Why isn't she up?" "Shall I wake her up?" My parents were like "No, she's not well!" I was like "SHE'S LYING!"... lol

Take Rumaitha's advice.  

Answer 17

Ya don't eat or drink in front of them.. Do it discreetly..

But usually they should know that u can't fast because of period, they most probably will understand that..

Answer 18

OK only Muslimah's will ans ... but

other regional person can`t ans ???

Why ???

You must to read there opinion too ... or do you think i am wrong ???

Answer 19

We always used to wake up for sehri (that's what we call it)

All us sisters, we never slept through if we were on our periods.

In fact, those who were not fasting used to be the one/s to help the most with preparing the shehri and the iftaari, as they didn't have to pray or fast.

Its so much easier that way, and saves on the awkward questions you can get from your dad or brothers. If you don't wake up it makes it so obvious.  

Answer 20

Really dear this should not even be an issue.  Having your period is normal for most women and though I don't see the need to make some big announcement to your family you shouldn't be shy to say you are not fasting for the next week.

Answer 21

Having a period is normal for every single woman. don't eat in front of them if possible. talk to your mother about it.

Answer 22

just say you feel really ill and might vomit or etc and say i cant fast or dont eat infront of anybody but go in your room and eat

Answer 23

Why don't you sit down, relax and have a bacon sandwich.....religion is a load of pants and the sooner you realise this your life will be a lot better.

God did not say follow any religion, only him....this is despite what any human being has said

Answer 24

peace be upon you

be open with this sisters, educate your sons brothers.  when a women is not praying or fasting - all she needs to say I am not praying/fasting today! no need for further questions. its nature ones a month, every lady it no big deal!!

Answer 25

i always wake up for sehri and act normal.

i eat and then i have to pretend that i'm in the bathroom doing my wudu but i just stand there for a while cos my little brother keeps asking hav u read namaz yet. so to avoid him keep asking me questions i just behave normal.  

Answer 26

Just be open and tell the the gory details. After you do this they wont ask again.

Answer 27

Act like a normal human being, it's a normal situation, been around for about 200,000  years or more. Pre-dates your silly religion.

Answer 28

If you really don't want anyone to know, buy some snack before Ramadhan starts and hide them someplace where you can eat in private.

Also, you could make sandwiches or something before you go to bed and tell family it's for when you wake up - thats not a lie as they don't need to know it'll be after fajr time - and then eat them as your breakfast when you wake.

Periods are normal remember and you shouldn't be shy about them with your female family members!

Answer 29

salam sister.

whats wrong in getting up 4 suhr wid your family. you can do dua that time you see thats the tahajjud time and the best hour to do dua and this is ramadaan so it's really gud to get up. and don't eat infront of the pple during the day.

Answer 30

You don't have to hide yourself. It is something normal! you have to live with that for a big part of your life.  Don't eat or drink in front of the ones that are fasting, why don't you tell your mom ( I sense you are quite young) I am sure she will come up with the best solution!

good luck!.

Answer 31

the night before, tell ur family not to wake u up coz ur on a diet. thats what i used to do. and when u get hungry during the day, sneak something up to ur room