Muslims please help:(

Question

I'm 14 and my mother wants me to wear abaya and scarf(i'm arab) if i'll go out with my friend to a mall or something. The thing is that i'm shy of wearing them. What should I do? Do I go out with my friend or do I just stay at home?

Answer 1

first of all, either wear the hijab all the way on, or all the way off, and secondly, if i was you, i wouldnt go, cause i dont wear the hijab yet, but i dont go out at all, only school. and i wont wear it cause my mom says so, i wear it when i feel ready.

Answer 2

I'm not "Muslim" but I have studied your religion.

There are no religious laws that say you have to wear an abaya and scarf.

Your faith is your faith. Tell your mom that you appreciate her concern and that you wont do that.  

Answer 3

obey your parents  

Answer 4

dont worry about! go out and show everyone who u are! respect! :)

Answer 5

HEY GIRL,

__________i"M 16 and TURN MUSILMAH LAST WEEK!!!_______

DON"T BE ASHAME OF WHO YOU ARE!!

_____________WEAR IT AND BE PROUD________

________YOUR FRIENDS SHOULD ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE

__________________GO OUT GIRLE

____________MAKE ME PROUD::::MARSHALLAH____________

______________ITS TIME FOR THEM TO KNOW________

_________________WEAR IT WEAR IT__________________

Answer 6

Don't go to the mall, unless you wanna buy something. Window shopping is g*y.  

Answer 7

As Salaam wa alaikum

Everything in Islam has a reason and most of it is for the betterment of the individual and society as a whole. Forbidding gambling, alcohol and interest are problems that we can eaisly appreciate because there are statistics and examples avaiable for us to see and understand how these vices affect the individaual and society. The advantages of women dressing up properly is not so easy to understand or appreciate.

Up to quite recently even western women used to dress up modestly. Look at old Wimbilton recordings and you would see the women wearing skirts as long as the ankles. With the advent of movies all this has changed. Ask yourself. Are the western women of today happy? I admit they do look happy and they would say they are happy. If we take this at face value then they make alcohol look good in adverts as well and we should believe that as well.

The facts are otherwise. Divorce and rape statistics show that these problems are on the increase. Although no one can state definately that this is due to the way women dress or to their more liberal role in society today, it cannot be denied as well. It is definately a factor to be considered. Think about it.

In my personal opinion I think that you should trust the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) and the Quraan for it guides you to peace and happiness. Your parents are only asking you to do what the Holy Prohet (SAW) and the Quraan teach. If we are Muslims then we must be Muslims completely and if every aspect.

May Allah guide us all on the seeratul Mustikim. Ameen

Answer 8

7abeebti if you are living in an Arab country, what is the big deal?  I went to UAE and many young girls dress modestly and the abaya is the norm.  I live in the US and I wear it.  You should be happy and thankful your mother is looking out for your best interests.  Of course she only wants the khair for you and she understand things you do not (but inshallah you will).  Listen to your mom my dear, moms know best :)

Answer 9

Well, if you've hit puberty, you really should consider wearing the scarf. As for the abaya, it is not mandated in Islam to wear it as long as you were long, loose-fitting clothing. But if it's a cultural issue, a friend of mine who lives in Saudia had the same problem, this is how it happened and how she solved her problem:

My friend, Hana', wore the scarf and abaya then decided to stop wearing the abaya. Since this is allowed in Islam, her family did not have any problems with it, but the neigbors began to talk and her mother became very distressed. So one day, her father approached her and asked if she could wear the abaya when in the neighborhood, just to appease the neighbors. Hana' agreed to wear the abaya near home then remove it when she left. Her father was surprised at the lack of argument but pleased. Then, as she left the room, Hana' asked her father "Okay but I have a question. When I pray thuhr, should I face the kibla or the neighbors' house? Because if wyou want me to wear the abaya for the people, should I follow Islam the way they wish me to as well?"

That drove the point home. Problem solved.

Answer 10

As Salaam to you all,

My daughter has just turned eleven and is shortly to attend High School here within the United Kingdom. She has decided to wear the hijab from the time that she left Junior School and I am pleased for her and her actions, which I hasten to add was through her own reasoning, rather than me dictating what she should do.

She will be one of a few who will be wearing the hijab at this school but she sees it as a sign of her faith. I am very proud of her actions and you worry what people may say or think about you and you live in an Arab society. Take heart and look within yourself to see what your faith is, then act. You are either a Muslima or not and being as there is no compulsion within religion, you will make your choice accordingly.

Wa Salaam

Answer 11

The only way to get over the shyness is to just wear it. Give it some time, you will probably get used to it, if you don't at least you tried.  

Answer 12

watch this

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=yH-GmwN4r8...

Answer 13

y do u care wat othrs will think of u??

if ppl really cared about u ...dey wudnt care if u had it or not///

u shud b proud 2 wear it....but anywayz itz ur choice...

but i rather do wat Allah has told us 2..

im 14  also....i waz a lil shy b4...but now im proud dat ima hijabi!!

^_^

Answer 14

Look i am a moslem and live in egypt and i am your same age but am boy !!!! Honestly i don't like young girls who wear abyas and stuff like that but you must obey you're parents as written in Quraan and one day you'll thank them !!! They are the parents...

Answer 15

its your choice , h**l or heaven take a pick

Answer 16

I am sorry for you.  I hope one day you can move to America if it is not already taken over by Islam when you are an adult.  No one has to wear hijab here.  Women can work, they can drive, they can succeed in life.  Here they can BE adults responsible for their actions and no one rules them but Allah and the decent laws of the land which respect each person and not men over women.

Answer 17

Imagine by wearing a headscarf how happy it will make your mother. It will also benefit you as Allah (SAW) has asked for all muslim females to cover themselves. Obey your parents, and you will be blessed.

Answer 18

You are bigger from caring about other's opinions!!

Just be who you are, and be proud of it.

you know, I wear abaya and scarf and I cover my face. I dont need my mom to tell me see.

believe me it is better to wear some thing that shows who you really are instead of wearing some thing covers your identity !

Good luck honey  

Answer 19

Don't be shy, no body will care; my mom always goes out to malls and they don't look at her in a bad way at all!

Answer 20

its your body and your life , if your not comfortable wearing one then dont wear it , its not the law .

Answer 21

Since girls start puberty at 10, you should have started wearing Abaya and Hijab at age 10.  As it is, that is your parent's fault for not making you wear hijab and Abaya at 10.  But you should obey your parents and ALLAH(Subhanna wa ta'ala). Wear the Abaya and Hijab.  There's nothing to be shy of or ashamed of for being a Muslim.  Hijab is a requirement for all Muslimahs who have reached puberty.

Puberty for girls:

10-Onset of breast development(breast buds)

11-Pubic hair-sparse, slightly pigmented(May also get first period)

12-Between 12 and 13, underarm hair begins to appear(May also get first period).

13-Breast enlargement continues; areola and papilla project above the contour of the b*****s.(High chance of getting first period).

14-Increase in pubic hair, but area covered is smaller then in adult.

15-b*****s and pubic hair are fully mature.

Answer 22

ooooh sis be lucky! you live in a arab country where many are muslim, and its not un-normal! sis go have fun, you and your friend will probably be so silly and havin fun you'll forget your wearing it.!!!!!!!!!!!

or better yet call you friend and tell her to wear it too, then  you both will be wearing it and can support each other! when i start wearring hijab, if for some reason my courage suddenly bounces up and i start while i'm still in highschool i'd rather start with a muslim friend that by myself! jus wear it sis its ok!

EDIT::::::::::*********::::::::::::: yay sis!!! have a good time insha'allah! you made an awesome choice! hey and bring me back a soft pretzel lolz!!!