My 10 year old daughter....dating?

Question

My daughter who is almost 10 has a boyfriend...it's not like they're kissing or anything, but I think it's cute. My husband doesn't like it at all...but I encourage her...is that wrong at age 9?

Answer 1

Yea, it is not cutsie and they are past the experimenting age, she needs put in check by your husband NO boys at age 9....seriously

Answer 2

i dont think its appropriate for any 10 yr old girl to be dating.. way too young...  your dont want them experimenting anything that is beyong their age..

Answer 3

What the heck do you mean by "dating". I guess you put words in her mouth which she never would have thought of herself. The dictionary explains dating as: the activity of going out regularly with somebody as a social or romantic partner. What exactly are you encouraging her/them to do. I guess you also think it is cute to have a grandchild when your daughter turns 10/11.

Be responsible and TALK to her.

Answer 4

I think its fine as long as they are never alone. If they aren't kissing, then theres really no worries. Boyfriends at that age are usually just friends that are like best friends but hes a boy.

Answer 5

When I was 12 there was a boy at my school who I called my boyfriend and he called me his girlfriend. We never took our relationship outside of school, so no dates. My mom was fine with this relationship. This sounds similar to your daughter's relationship.

Talk to your husband about why he is uncomfortable with the relationship, because it seems fairly innocent. Your daughter is interested in boys and it is time to define your family's dating rules. You may be surprised to find out that she actually considers to be a date and boyfriends.

Answer 6

No it's not wrong if you want her to be pregnant by the time she is 12.  Ten years old is much too young to have a "boyfriend" having friends that are boys are one thing but a boyfriend is too much.  She isn't mature enough to handle that sort of relationship and you are only encouraging her to get into something she isn't ready to handle.  So in a couple of years are you going to be referred to as Grandma?

Answer 7

Yes, that's completely wrong unless you want to become a grandmother prematurely.

My daddy used to say, "Don't go advertising something you don't want to sell."

Kids should be encouraged to wait until they are mature enough to handle everything that goes with a gf/bf relationship.  It's hard--drama, ups, downs, heartbreaks, high of falling in love...

I didn't date until late in college, and the first  man I dated was perfect for me, God-chosen.  There was still drama, but I am grateful every single day that God chose this man for me.  He's a jewel.

TX Mom

Answer 8

9 is too young to be dating. I don't think it's cute at all. I think you should align yourself with you husband on this issue.

Answer 9

First, how old is the boy? Second, do they do anything alone, or are they chaperoned?  I don't think it's wrong necessarily, but I would be careful and monitor their activities, and I wouldn't allow it if the boy was more than a year older than your daughter. And some boys are more active at a younger age. I would just watch carefully. If you forbid it, it could lead to lying, sneaking, and resentment, which will get worse as she gets older. Show her you trust her now, and she will trust you later.

Answer 10

She's 9 - let her be 9, your husband is right!!

Answer 11

Well we had our little boyfriends in 1st grade, and that was private christian school.  Lord only knows what's going on now.  I would just be careful and very open with her.  Make sure she is still talking to you openly about all the aspects of her "relationship".  Keep it light keep it fun, but let her know the seriousness of things....good luck

Answer 12

She's a little young to be dating...let her be a kid for a while.  She has the rest of her life to deal with men.

Answer 13

Its not wrong. Dont let her be kissing or anything like that, but its normal for a girls to like boys and her boyfriend isnt really her boyfriend they just want to feel grown up. Its like her really good friend. Asure your husband that if they are not kissing its alright, they are just like really good friends like i said. Its good for girls to practice talking to boys, especially when she gets into her teens, that is where they are kissing and all that kind of stuff. Just tell her its ok, as long as they are not kissing or doing anything bad.

Answer 14

What, exactly, does a "boyfriend" mean to her?  Maybe you should ask her what she thinks boyfriends and girlfriends do together...  My son has had a "girlfriend" since he was 6 or so and he will be 10 this year.  They don't see each other very often and don't makeout or anything.  It's just the terms they use for each other.  My niece is 12 and she just got a "boyfriend" but she claims that it means that they sit together at lunch.  If anything further happened, her grandfather would kill the poor kid.  My husband, brother-in-law and my son already asked where the boy lives so they can go "have a talk" with this boy...

Answer 15

a "boyfriend" at that age is a little different than a boyfriend at age 14 or 15....I'd set some major boundaries such as them not being allowed to be alone together at all...things like that.

Answer 16

with the way teen pregnancy is these days letting you daughter have a so called boy Friend at 9 seems way too young i agree with you husband

Answer 17

Im 11 and have had boyfriends. I supoise its ok.

-Tara

Answer 18

Wait, is she nine or 10? You said she was 10 in the question but then you asked if it was wrong at the age of nine.

Answer 19

Better put a stop to it now.. she'll be sneaking out at 11 and will be with child when she is 12...

For gosh sakes.. be a REAL PARENT!

Answer 20

what is wrong with people today??? First i am reading about a parent wondering if her daughter with a great body should wear short shorts to school. Now there is you encouraging a 10 year (or is it 9???)old to date. No wonder kids are coming home pregnant. She has a boyfriend fine, but you do not encourage it. Encouraging means you approve of it and what happens when she is 12 and says to you she wants to go on the pill. Are you going to encourage that too?

Answer 21

Just cause she has a boyfriend doesn't mean they are dating. Kids this age have boyfriends but they mostly giggle at each other, maybe hold hands in school. Make sure they go with a group of other kids if you allow them to go anywhere. Like a game or the roller rink.

Answer 22

I did the same thing at that age. Someone would tell you a boy liked you, and you'd decide how gross he was. If he wasn't icky, then you'd tell them you liked him and from then on he would be your boyfriend.

It was totally an in-school thing... you'd talk to your boyfriend in class, and play at lunch time, but the thought of actually kissing them (or even holding hands) didn't cross your mind. And you always, always had to pick each other first in games and such... that was a major rule.

And then after awhile you'd start "liking" the new boy, and on it would go again.

Haha... I remember sitting around at lunch in sixth grade with friends, and we'd all immediately jump up if our "boyfriends" made any sort of move to put their arm around us or put their hands on our knees.

I don't know about encouraging it. I think I'd just let it be.

Answer 23

Is she 9 or 10? You contradict yourself in your own question. Secondly it doesn't matter if she is 9 or 10 because it is inappropriate at that age. Your husband has a right to be upset and annoyed.  It's not like she's 15 or 16 and starting to date- she's still a little girl at her age and definitely not ready to handle relationships with boys.

Answer 24

well, at that young of an age, they might not even talk in school, they don't do anything outside of school. It's a very mutual thing. Most of the time, the only reason these things last long is because they never talk, so they never say to eachother "it's over" don't worry about it. The couple is never going to do anything, so you have no worries. It will pass over sooner or later.