My 10 year old son help please?

Question

my son is going away with the school for 3 days friday saturday sunday and he comes back on sunday hes worried because hes never been away from home befor hes getting really worried how can i make him not be so worried please help anythink will do please help thanks

Answer 1

How scary for a 10 yr old. What about a cell phone? If he doesn't have one, maybe you or someone else has one that he can borrow and use to call home once a day. I would let him know that it is for emergencies and 1 phone call a day to let you know how he is doing. Is he afraid of leaving you? Why not get a pic of yourself and write a little note on the back and tell him to carry that with him in his pocket the whole time and this way you will always be with him. What about a worry stone? If you don't have one, pick a rock, any rock, and tell him that if he starts to get scared to just rub the rock in his hand and think positive thoughts. Tell him to think about good times, things he wants to do, places he wants to go or has been that he enjoyed. Above all, I would tell him that this trip is going to be good for him, its all part of growing up and  that he needs to go and make the best of it and that he will probably have such a good time that he will forget that he has a cell phone or a rock to rub when he is worried, or a pic of Mom to look at when he is homesick. Maybe you could work something out with the parent of another child, and team them up on a buddy system, you know, where you go, I go, and we never go anywhere alone type thing. I hope some of these suggestions help you, and I hope he gets it in his head that he can do this and have a great time.

That was very ignorant of Me to assume that it was "Mom" asking the question, I apologize. I didn't realize it til I had posted and was reading all of the answers, you could very well be his Dad. BTW, a few answers down from mine, someone suggested bringing a piece of "security" from home, thats a wonderful idea as well.

Answer 2

tell him about all the fun activities that he and his friends will do together. Tell him that all his friends will be away from home to have fun with him too

Answer 3

My kids were never worried about things like that.  They loved the adventure.

Just tell him everything will be fine.  I don't suppose you have a spare cell phone you can lend him?  He might break it, never mind.  Can he meet his chaperone early so he knows who he is supposed to be with?

Answer 4

well children that age are supposed to be afraid to leave their "dens" for long periods of time. thats because they feel security being at home and around loved ones. one way to solve this is to give him an article from home like a blanket or pillow or something from his favorite place in the house so that security from home can be brought with him. hope this helps!! :))

Answer 5

May sound stupid but I think it's best to bribe him into it - give him something he likes if he goes. Otherwise, let him take something he likes with him.

Answer 6

I have a 9 and 12 year old in the same situation....

Tell him exactly what is going to happen and that he will have LOTS of fun. I told my kids that by the 2nd day (they're going for 5) they won't even remember they have a mom! Explain to him how much fun he's going to have and get him a notebook of some sort so he can write letters home if he chooses (of course he can't mail them) to make himself feel better and let him bring a special animal or pillow.

Answer 7

First of all, why is this in the "Preschool" section?

Second, tell him that he will be ok and that nothing will happen to him etc.

Answer 8

Just assure him to have a good time..you will miss him and can't wait until he gets back

Answer 9

you are bound to be worried...the thing is don't make a big deal of it, when he sees you worried then he'll feel there is something to worry about.  Just let him go and hope for the best he has to to do it one day....i believe you mustn't hold them back the more u do the less confident they feel - these trips are good experience to help them let go and and feel independant. meanwhile what u can do is sit  back and make him feel he's so lucky he's going and its gonna be fun and all his freinds and teachers will be there and that u are gonna wait for him when they come back.

Answer 10

Tell him this story

long time back there is Forg who link in small ponds of water, place is very small he hardly come out of that, dont know about outside world, many friends of his age always ask him to come with them and see how world is look from outside of small ponds but he nerver belive as he think his small pond very save and secure than other place, he spend half of life in that small pond, one day a heavy rain came and his pond become lake of running water that time he was very afraid, but this time he actually come to know about world, he dont have any option even he is afriad becaues this time change is because of compulsion, he dont have option to adopt or not adopt this change  as its compulsary so he realise that now we have to adopt this change and he have adopted this change.

moral of story :  Change before change changes you,

tell your son about outside world, who is waiting how it is rather than worring about it  

best of Luck

Answer 11

If your ten year old kid has never been away from you, then I can totally understand why he is so nervous!! I would be nervous too!

Maybe ten years old is too young to allow him to go away for three days. Don't let him go, and maybe next year he'll be more ready?

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Answer 12

Yes, your son is worried because he will be away from home....tell him that he will have fun and that you will have a word with his teacher.  You will ask the teacher to take special care of him and if he feels homesick to ring you.  That might do the trick.  And do have a word with the teacher, in front of your son, to say just that.  It will put his mind at rest and the teacher will pay special attention to him...

Answer 13

It is perfectly normal for him to be feeling so nervous right now!!  Aside from phone calls, write him a letter and put it in his suitcase.  Also, tell him that he can bring a family photo with him, and maybe something of yours (watch or something else) that he can bring with him and wear or have close to him so it's almost like part of you is there with him. Don't worry.  Once he gets there and has all sorts of activities to keep his mind busy, he will probably be SAD to go home!!!  You have to have a first time away, and it will always be hard no matter what age!!

Answer 14

You won't stop him worrying about it, it is only natural, comfort him and reasure him every thing is going to be ok.

every thing will change for him when he arrives at camp, he will be involved in pre planned activities that he will enjoy and it will give him an oppertunity to find out what it is like to spread his wings a little bit.

He will come back from camp with a whole new attitude.

Don't worry, he will be ok.

Answer 15

I have two children both different one will go somewhere and make me come and get him or will at least call for reassurance. My other child will go and I will have to call or drag him back home.  The age does not matter its continued thru out their teenage years.  Matter of fact the one still lives at home at age 30 and still needs security. So let your son know that he can call you at anytime and give him reassurance and hopefully he'll be the type that like to be on outings and also you might want to build him up for the trip like a new outfit with walking shoes or proper attire to fit where hes going. Whatever you do  don't let him know that your going to be worried the whole time just let him know you'll miss him and love him.  Hopefully i've helped you out.

Answer 16

Will they allow prepaid phone cards so your child can use the card to call home?

How far away are they going.  Can you go pick him up if it gets to be to much for him?

Can you chaperon?

Are his best friends going?

Meet with chaperons and have your son also meet them to calm his nerves if they know hes nervous maybe can let him be closer to them.

Answer 17

take special things from home

Answer 18

My bet is that he was probably nervous when he first began going to school.  Try reminding him  that he has done other things which have scared him at first, but he still got through them okay.  Remind him that being away from home is just a healthy part of growing up, tell him that he can call you if he starts to feel nervous, and if you can, offer to have you or somebody else he loves there to meet him the very minute that he comes back. That is usually enough to make these things okay.  In the meantime, just tell him that it's nothing to be scared of, and ask him, "What do you think might be fun about the trip?"  It will probably help him be less nervous if he focuses on the positive; but if even thinking about the trip is too scary for him, just try to distract him.  Ir worse comes to worst, I am sure that he can come home early.

Answer 19

Tell him that it is normal, and give him a phone card if he doesn't have a cell.