My 10 year old son is kind of a loner, should I push him to make more friends or leave him be?

Question

My 10 year old son is kind of a loner, should I push him to make more friends or leave him be?

Answer 1

push him bug no 2 much so he hates you. But also let him be!

Answer 2

Leave him alone. I was a loner all through out school. Wheni decided to be like my few friends i had, i started ditching school and became i little witch just like them. i wish my family wouldnt have put so much pressure on me to be friends with everybody.

Answer 3

lolz

push him.

Answer 4

he will find friends it takes time

Answer 5

i child needs to learn to make his own friends. if you push him to hang out with others, he may begin to think of himself as a loser because he doesnt have many friends or completely change his personality to make friends. he may begin to hang out with the wrong crowd just because you made him feel as if he must have friends. he should be around people who he likes and who like him, not cause mom made him.

Answer 6

As long as he isnt torturing the neighborhoods dogs and cats leave him alone.

Answer 7

I would just simply put him in (gradually) in some settings where there are lots of children around - and maybe focus those outings on activities that you already know that he enjoys - maybe a children's art class if he is into art.  That way he'll have more of an opportunity to interact with other children - and you can also watch to see if it appears that he is doing ok or if it seems like he may have any type of social/psychological problem with talking and interacting with other children.

Answer 8

From experience.....I say let him be. He will come out of his shell when he's ready.

Answer 9

Dont push too hard cause if he's like I was he'll just crawl that much futher into his shell....just do little things to help.Some people just are not as creative and do not know what to say/do and get imbarresed real easy....not to say your son is but if he is you may want to take things slow at first. ..Like set him in one on one type situations with another child his age so he can make friends slowly without the pressure of competiting with others for attention from the child he's getting to know. make sure the children you pick aren't bullies or teasers...and when the friendships (that have been formed seperately) are well established then bring maybe 2 of the boys together he's gotten to know seperatley and do somethimg to give him an advantage, like if you have a pool at your home invite the other 2 boys to swim...etc.Then slowly ad more kids till he feels comfortale in a group AND he has his place in it.... in the meantime be glad that he can be independant too, much better than co-dependant! Best of luck!

Answer 10

I wouldn't push it but I would encourage him to be places where there are other children. Do you know why he is a loaner, is that just his natural personality or has it just recently started happening?  I know my boyfriends son is the type to just prefer playing alone but he has always been that way and was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder as well as ADHD and now they think he has Aspergers and the schools are even complaining because he doesn't "socialize" with the other kids.

Answer 11

u should try to encourage him to make more friends

because thats what moms are for to care for their children

Answer 12

push him 2 make friends!

Answer 13

I think you should let him be but at the same time help him out like trow him a boy girl party and let him loosing up maybe he'll brake out of his shell

Answer 14

Maybe change schools.

i became an emo because of having no friends

Answer 15

Ok i may only be 15 but i have personal expeirence.

One of my cousins has been a  "loner" his whole life and it can get really messed up.

Nothing really happens until he gets to the age where he gets intrested in girls.

Because he has no freinds his life can become terrible espicially when he has his first crush.

because he has no other freinds to take his mind off of this girl he starts thinking about him A LOT.

And just with only one person on his mind it can lead him into obsession of this girl and maybe even stalking. And thats bad(personal expeirence).

so if i were to give you advice i would say yes push him into making freinds and getting people to hang out with.

It will probabaly be the best for him.

Answer 16

i would leave him be some kids just get along better with themselves.

if you do want to push him to make friends, is there a sport he enjoys that he can do? my children do karate and have made a lot of very wonderful friends through it that they would have never meet in normal day to day life (kids that go to different schools)

i would only be concerned if he is being picked on or bullied because of this.

Answer 17

never push him, but encourage him to get involved with sports or some type of camp were he can meet people.. if he chooses to be left alone, let him, but watch him closely..