My 10 year old son wont go to sleep in his own room he says he is scared on his own what cani do with him efo?

Question

My 10 year old son wont go to sleep in his own room he says he is scared on his own what cani do with him efo?

Answer 1

Does he have a little plug in light so he is not in darkness this has helped my son loads he sleeps a lot better with a dim light on.

Answer 2

When I was 11, I went through the same thing. I slept in a sleeping bag next to my mom's bed for months. I eventually got the courage to sleep back in my own room again, but with some help.

1. I kept the T.V. on until I fell asleep

2. My mom came in to check on me every 1/2 hour

3. I would keep the light on low until I fell asleep

Hope this helped!

XOXOXOXOXOXOXO,

                         Victoria

Answer 3

1)  Sit with him until he falls asleep but don't talk or play, just be by his bed.  Do not allow him to leave his bed after bedtime.

2) Every night move your chair further away.

3) When you are close to the door tell him the last night you will sit with him.  Also make sure he knows you think he's big and strong enought to do it on his own.

Also you may want to let him know that the state can take him away if he sleeps with you.  In most states it is sexual abuse at 10!

Answer 4

My 9 y/o son is the same way he's also afraid to go downstairs alone.  I don't know what to tell you since I'm going through the same thing.

Answer 5

My 8 yr old grandson has the same fears.  One night I sat in bed with him and we had a serious adult conversation .  I encouraged him to specifically articulate his fears.  I had assumed that he had typical under the bed and in the closet monster fears.  Not so, he's actually afraid of someone breaking in at night and kidnapping him.  Too much TV?  Too much safety information?  I explained why he is safe, and how we adults see to it that he is protected and safe at all times.  I don't know what your child is afraid of but if you encourage him to be specific and verbalize it, you may be able to reason away his fears.  Good luck

Answer 6

I would sit by his bed and not talk, but just be there.  Maybe you could read a book with one of those itty bitty book lights.  I think a lot of falling asleep is habit, and you don't want him to have the habit of falling asleep in your bed.  Having a nightlight or even the lights on is totally OK.  

I wouldn't get him in the habit of watching TV/radio or crawling into your bed (if you can help it... sometimes my 7 year old does in the middle of the night and I don't even know it:}.  I know it can be exhausting for a couple of weeks as you implement it, but it will be worth it.  

The only exception I make for this is for true nightmares, illness, or if they have just had a terrible day.  All guidelines have to have some flexibility.  But, don't let the habit of sleeping with you start... heck, I know adults who still struggle to sleep alone, and many of them never had to learn it when they were kids.

Answer 7

I have read all the answers so far and although they are great suggestions sometimes it just doesn't help. I have a 9 year old in the same predicament. He has a night light, he has the radio on all night, he can fall asleep alone and sometimes asks me to sit there with him till he is asleep. But when he wakes up in the middle of the night he climbs into my bed, this is now a habit that he can't break.  All I can say is he will grow out of it when its time.

Answer 8

Have a night light in his room.

Answer 9

try letting him fall asleep with the light on, then turn it off once he falls asleep. asure him that if he gets extremely scared he can come sleep by you. have you tried nightlights yet? those help too, especially more than one. even laying next to him until he falls asleep then leaving gives comfort.

hope that's helpful.

Answer 10

let him watch tv till he fall asleep.