My 10 year old was watching my husband and I being intimate. When we were done, he busted in the room.HELP!!?

Question

My 10 year old from a previous relationship walked in on my husband and me. I actually think he we a watching through the crack in the door. We thought he was a sleep and his room is in basement. He was sneaking with a flashlight. I was in the bathroom when we were done and he came in yelling and almost crying. He knows what s*x is and where babies come from. Is my child tramatized. I told my husband to talk to him about it. We don't reallty have a door knocking policy because this has never been an issue. I know we will start locking the door. How do we fix this issue so we are all okay?

Answer 1

You all need to sit down together and draw out some boundaries.

Try not to make it seem like a 2 against 1 thing. Don't blame anybody for what happened and door knocking policy is good practice regardless. When it comes to barging into his bosses office in later life he'll wish he learned how to knock.

Answer 2

He should be glad that you still have the flame. But,he should not be watching tell him that That's what parents do when they love each other and that is very rude to watch/stare a people when they are alone.

Answer 3

wow it all i can say that's a little crazy

Answer 4

The way you handle this will leave a lasting impression, believe me. Explain that what you were doing was private and you meant for the door to be closed but since it wasn't he saw something that is wonderful and natural between 2 people. Explain that it is not polite for him to watch and that you are not embarassed for what you were doing but that he saw it since it was supposed to be private. At 10, although he knows the mechanics of s*x, this can still be a disgusting thing to actually see it. If you act all freaked out and ashamed he could get the impression that it is something dirty or shameful. The best approach is to explain a new knock policy and then ask him if he has any questions about what he saw. 10 might seem young, but in this day and age the more he learns from you, the better.

Answer 5

There is a pill he can take and will forget everything that happened, lol. But you must take it soon and he won't remember anything for the last 3 days i think

Answer 6

You begin by realizing that this question does not belong in Toddler and Preschooler, but in Grade Schooler instead.

10 years old is neither a Toddler, nor a Preschooler.  In fact, it is middle school aged.

Answer 7

If you don't act all freaked out about it he won't be freaked out about it. There is nothing to be ashamed of, althouh it is embarrising. If he knows what s*x is then he was probably curious when he saw you two.

Just ask him if he has any questions he wants to ask you, or his step-dad about what he saw.