My 11 year old daughter sticks her nose in uninvited and offers advice!? HELP! I always pick the best answer!?

Question

My daughter is bothering the c**p out of me! How do I get her to stay out of my business, and what the heck makes her think I want her advice forced on me? If I'm playing a game on the computer, she butts in and tells me what to do or what the rules are, and when I ask her to stop, she just keeps it up! If I discipline her brother, she opens her mouth and puts her two cents worth in. Sometimes I want to scream at her. I deserve some peace and the right to do things my way when she is not involved in a situation! I love her to death, but she's driving me nuts! I am a teacher and I'm home for the summer. So far I've tolerated it, but we are going on vacation soon ... and she's about to drive her dad, her brother, and me CRAZY! Advice? Help?

Answer 1

Well, your daughter is kind of how my mom and aunt

describe me and my younger cousin. My cousin is

6 and very smart, and cannot control her mouth when doing

this. I on the other hand can control it. The way I know to

control mine is that my mom has told me, "It is very rude,

and embarasses her when she's trying to have a conversation

and I butt-in. Although I may be right, she would appreciate

it if I went and did something else or just talked when spoken

to." Also, my mom kind of knows how to play it off to make

me look dumb when I inform her of incorrect things. Just teach your daughter to bite her tounge, tell her that she is

embarassing you in front of other adults and you and her father

do not appreciate it.

My cousin is the opposite of me by not controlling it. She

could if she wanted to, but has never been disciplined.

Like, if she corrected her mom on something and her mom

told her to go away she would throw a fit and her mom gives

in. Thats a definite thing not to do.

So basically, don't tolerate it. Tell her its embarassing when

you are around others. Tell her if she knows something to

keep it to herself, after all you are the adult and she's the

child. Oh - another thing my mom does that bugs me in

the same is if I correct her or something, she comes by

later and does the same thing to me and tells me "See how

aggrivating it is..."

I hope I helped a little, and I'm not sure how this advice will

work on your husband as well.. maybe the part about giving

him unwanted advice.

Answer 2

Sit down and talk to her about it. Tell her that you would appreciate it if she would mind her own buisness(not in a rude way). Tell her that she is getting kind of annoying and bothersome. She will probably be a little mad at first, but it will get the point across. Be as nice as you can while talking to her, don't be rude.

Answer 3

Maybe you treat your husband the same way that she treats you and she is following in your footsteps.

Answer 4

start giving her unwanted advice constantly,and then..when she asks you to stop tell her "you see how annoying that is?" and then tell her how it bothers you,or you can punnish her for not doing what you told her to (to stop giving advice)