My 11 year old lied to us last night and carried out the lies for three hours...he even sweared on the bible ?

Question

What should his punishment be?

Answer 1

oh man, well what did he lie about?

do u ground him? or no? u can ground him 4 the rest of the summer(but my school stars in 1 week, some start in a couple)

Answer 2

Your punishment was good but it won't keep him from not lying again. Everyone lies.

Answer 3

for swearin on the Bible, read the book of Matthew

for lying- no computer for a week  

Answer 4

you need to teach him  lesson, he needs to learn that it is wrong to lie.  So discipline, not punish

Answer 5

It alll depends on what the lie was about.

Answer 6

Your punishment is good, but you should make him DO something too, as well as NOT doing something.

You won't stop him lying no matter what you do, though. Every kid lies.  

Answer 7

what did he lie about?

Answer 8

Since he sweared on the bible make him copy the gospel of John or sometin.  

Answer 9

for keeping the lie on that long ground him for tree weeks (one week per hour.) for lying while swearing on the bible, another 2 weeks and make him read the entire old testament and write a report on it to prove he read it

Answer 10

Beat his ... Spare the rod, end up with an unruly child!

Answer 11

it's a box of candy. he's 11, give him a break. if you really feel the need to punish him, make him write a Bible passage since he swore on it. Honestly, i think taking away all of that is a little drastic. Maybe taking away videos games and tv for a day, and then carrying out on the grounding is enough. Don't make him sit there all week doing nothing, it's bad enough he has to live with the fact that he lied to you guys and got caught. Hopefully that will make him not lie again.

Being punished never helped me.  

Answer 12

Explain to him that now that you know he has lied to you you will never know when he is telling you the truth.  He has broken and now will have to regain your trust.  Ground him and check out every story he tells you to be sure he is telling you the truth until you feel you can trust him again.

Answer 13

if you dont want him to lie, the consequences have to be higher. one month, no tv, computer, or friends. plus extra chores around the house until he can learn that lieing is not ok.

Answer 14

im a christian and all, and i know that lieing is bad, but ever1 makes mistakes, everyone sins. don't be too tough on him, i mean it was just a box of candy. every kid has gone and eaten a cookie or candy from the jar and lied about it. the punishment you gave should be enough, but you cannot stop someone from lieing. make him read the ten commandments and tell him the consequences for lying in the future and how it can mess someones life. im sure you have lied to your parents also. so, its kinda hypocritical for you to talk as if your not a sinner.

Answer 15

Well everyone lies at one point or another so there's NO way that he will never lie again, but just let him know that he shouldn't have done it, and next time he does give him more consquences. But just relax, it was only candy. And yeah it was a expensive gift, but he was scared of what you would have done if he told the you truth.  

Answer 16

Umm... wow.

You punish him for doing something as small as eating some candy, AND you make him swear on the bible for something so stupid?

I hate to see what you do when he starts having s*x....

Answer 17

You made your child swear on the Bible?  

I sense your child doesn't want to disappoint you at any cost and he wanted some candy.  It happens.  It will happen again.  Do not break out the Bible if it does.  If you ratchet up the punishment, they will become more inclined to do it.  It's the "is the best you can give me?" sort of argument that should pull you up short and realize who the adult is in the equation.

Do reasonably punish your child by taking away a privilege (TV, video games) but don't try to keep adding on to it in hopes of 'stopping' him forever.  

I have an 11 year old who knows if she tries to lie, I'll catch her and it's not fun.  She has to explain why she felt compelled to lie (thinking through the situation) and evaluate how she'd do it differently and then she has to pick her punishment.  If it doesn't match the severity, I'll pick it.   She was very bad for awhile and once we employed this approach, the lies have dropped dramatically.