My 11 year old son?

Question

My son is adhd, bipolar, and odd with severe behavioral issues I have tryed everything out there I know to help him. I am at my witts end and he is one step away from being kicked out of the sixth school in five years due to his behavor. He is in a special ed class to help with his behavior and he has an IEP in place. I have tryed everything to get him to try to place that anger some where else or try to controll it. everything we try doesn't work for him. Please if there is someone out there that is dealing with the same thing please let me know where to turn.

Answer 1

i have a 10 yr old son with adhd borderline autistic, i know where your coming from, i too have problems with his anger, the thing with my son is it doesnt matter what emotion should be on display, ie be it happy sad surprised frustated etc it all comes out as anger, i also have a 4 yr old daughter and he turns his anger on her a lot of time....i feel like there is no where to turn at times too.. you need someone to talk to, i know i do at times....good luck x

Answer 2

They have meds for all of that if that doesn't help try  some marshell arts for him to do that way he can take out his anger on the work out and still learn a good self defense.

Answer 3

Personal advocate would be a must in this case.  Go to the school board and check out all the schools in your school district to see if they have another facility with better assets to accomodate your son.  They cannot kick him out, but he may need additional testing and revision of his IEP to address his real needs.

Answer 4

Ask for a meeting with your sons educational psychologist as soon as possible. If he has an IEP in place, he should have one.

Answer 5

I don't know any one with this situation but the first thing that came into my mind was a very tiring sport. IE swimming, kick boxing, football. It is somethign that will keep him occupied and he will use all of his energy to a good c ause.

Answer 6

Is your son getting all the support services accommodations that he needs?

IF a child has a behavior that is interfering with his learning and/ or the learning of others he is entitled to a Functional Behavior Assessment/ Functional Analysis Assessment (FBA/FAA) and a Positive Behavior Support Plan or Positive Behavior Intervention Plan (BSP/ BIP).

These are the technical terms.

Basically when a person has behavior problems they are communicating something to us. The purpose of the assessment is to determine the purpose or function of the behavior and what specific skills we need to teach the child instead in order to get their needs met in an appropriate manner.

www.wrightslaw.com

has lot of information on discipline, behavior plans etc.

www.socialthinking.com

has good resources for high functioning kids with autism and aspergers that work on the cognitive processing part of the social relatedness that is often missing.

Remember they can't kick your child out of school. They can only offer another placement that they think would meet your child's needs better. You have the ultimate decision to consent or not consent. Think about all your options. Insist on seeing new proposed placements before signing. You might want to get an advocate or someone to help you through the process to get your son's needs met.

Answer 7

I must agree with whomever stated you need an advocate. Please contact your local disability law center and ask for someone with experience with IEP issues.

The school has a responsibility to make sure he can function in that setting, and if they can't they are supposed to find a school program in which they can. They cannot just kick him out, they have to find an appropriate program OR PAY FOR A PRIVATE ONE THAT WILL HELP HIM.

Write a letter, requesting an emergency IEP meeting, and in that meeting state that the current IEP/setting is not working as son is still having behavioral troubles. Then ask them how they are planning to address this, and let them talk.

Please also, read as much as you can at http://www.wrightslaw.com. This website is a goldmine of information, and will help so much. You can even google items on the website, so I'd go for 'adhd', 'behavioral problems', and 'suspensions'. Do it asap. Your son needs help, and the longer he flounders the harder it will be to pull him back out of the mire.