My 11 year old son suffers from ADHD and anxiety.?

Question

He is picked on in school to the extreme and has really low self esteem.He has become angry with other students, saying things like "Everyone hates me" "I don't want to live"

He is on meds for ADHD and takes an antidpressant for anxiety. Also is seeing a psycoligist.

How can we help him find friends and have less conflict in school?

I think one good friend who does'nt turn on him at school would make all the difference in his attentude and outlook on life.

Answer 1

havent you ever heard that you dont get to pick your kids friends.  that is up to your son to do.  i know its hard to watch .  try putting him in a sport or something that he likes to do.  maybe then he will meet some new people with similar interests as his.

i have a son with ADHD and if forgets his meds he can be very hyper.  and that makes it hard to make friends. but he got into baseball and now he has many friends all who are on his team or other teams but they hang out because of baseball.

Answer 2

I have ADHD and only a few close friends. If I forget to take my medicine one day, I can act very hyper and very stupid, which annoys the other kids. They remember that and don't like me as much, so I am very shy when I am on my meds. Trying to help him out might embarress him if you are too open about it. Even the best parents can not understand how the society and caste system in schools work. Give him time and make sure he knows he can have friends come over incase he started getting along with someone. If you an find out who the other shy/quiet kids in his class are, yu could try to set them up together. I get along best with the other shy, quiet, and less popular kids. If he already has a friend liek that, you may not know it since he'll be less likely to call him, go over to his house, talk about him, etc. than if he was more outgoing.

Answer 3

Try an activity outside of school.  Is there a sport he likes?  What about Scouting?  Boy Scouts is a great activity.  

What has the psychologist recommended?  This is something that they can advise you on as well.

Answer 4

You can't make your son have friends. If he wants to be whiny and self loathing, really that's his own problem.