My 12 year old daughter has had a rough year-she was bullyed?

Question

by two girls in school that continued with nasty text messages in the summer.

As far as school academics goes, she didn't have a problem-straight A's all year but I feel her pride as well as her self esteem might have been hurt a little..well a lot

what are some things i can do for her to cheer her up?

I was thinking maybe a summer party?

Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Take her to a spa, get her hair & nails done...buy her some make up & clothes and she will probably feel much better about going back to school.

Answer 2

have her write an angry, angry letter - to each girl. Then, have her rip them up and recycle them.

Answer 3

Throwing her a party is good.....if anything, have her number changed that way the nasty text messages can stop.... Tell her to be careful on who she gives out the new number to so it doesn't get to them.... Let her know shes above that and the only reason theres jealousy from those bullies, is because your daughter is bright and has a lot going for her... She wont let anyone hold her back from getting where she wants to be :)

Answer 4

I think a party sounds like a blast. Tweens and teens can be SO CRUEL. I'm not looking forward to that age, at all.

Get all her friends round up- even invite those kids she doesn't normally see(but still likes) from activities or groups or wherever. Let her be little miss popularity for a day and forget all about the bullies.

Answer 5

look talk to  ur daugther and encourage her to have a boyfriend close this well work out and they will stop bullying ur s**y chick

Answer 6

First off, I'm sorry that your daughter was bullied, I know exactly how she feels because I was bullied from grade 3 - 7.

As someone who was bullied I'll tell you right now her self - esteem and self worth is probably so low that it will take time to build it up. I'm fifteen and I still don't believe much in myself or think I'm all that worthy. So keep in mind it might take some time, after all these little snots hurt your daughter so much emotionally and mentally. Even though it might have stopped the things they said will or...texted will be hard for your daughter to get out of her head.

I'm not trying to be all negative - I'm just saying that's what might be going on with her.

As for a summer party, I think it's a great idea. Maybe invite a couple of her friends. Either that or a sleep over does wonders. I can't tell you how could I felt when I had my friends sleepover on her birthday a month ago, we told each other so much that we never knew each other and they were just things I had to get off my chest or finally tell them stuff that they didn't know. I feel so good now knowing I have people I can trust.

Also, maybe have her take up a hobby of some sort? When I was around eight I took up the flute and I've been playing a good seven or eight years now. I'm in the band and I have a bunch of friends in there and I also do a lot of little concerts and a bunch of festivals. Performing in front of an audience is such an adrenaline rush for me, I just love how I feel when performing for people. It's made me slightly more confident in myself knowing I do have some talent.

Now I'm not saying she has to play the flute to gain all of that. But a hobby would be good. And hey if she does want to pick up an instrument, try and see if she can it builds great skills and it boosts your confidence in a number of ways. It can also be a sport - of course I know nothing about sports because I don't do the sports (I hit the gym with my mom). I hear sports are great ways to boost up your confidence and just make you feel great.

The best thing you can do is just talk to her about this and I think the party idea will be fantastic.

I also suggest changing her number so the foolish brats who tortured her can't contact her. If you can someone said switch schools - maybe consider that or make sure she's not in the classes with the bullies.

I'm sorry I'm not that big of a help. I hope these few tips are helfpul. I hope your daughter will be okay. :)

Answer 7

well, i think that you should talk to her about her friends, make sure that she understands that she has friends and not everybody thinks that way about her,  and cheer her up by saying '' why dont u have a get together or slumber party with your friends''  ... .. tip:for the party/slumberparty, try to get her friends that airn't rlly friends with the people who were texting the mean stuff.

   trust me im 13 and thats what i would want to do/happen if i was in her position.

    & also dont talk about it that much .. just keep on talkingg/askingg questions about   her friends  to make her happier and higher her self-esteem. & haaha if she does have a party thing .. then try not to embarrass her cuz that will make her self-esteem low again. and she'll be emmarrassed.

p.s i hoped i helped =]  ... bbye!

Answer 8

hah, im 13 now and i know the best way to get rid of problem people is to act soooooo weird they get scared and leave you alone.

example:

meanie: omg ur like so......

your daughter: i hate you, do you want to come over to my house?

meanie; what the....

your daughter: yah im having a party, wanna come it will be lots of fun!

Meanie: uh..... no

and then if she trys to be as kind as possible, they will sooo leave her alone. infact, thats how i met my best friend, she was totally bullying me at first.

Answer 9

let her take karate.

it help gain pride, self esteem, and protect herself

Answer 10

Yes, a summer party would be a good idea because even if school life is hard and you get bullied, family life can still be fun and you can feel confident when you're at home! and also changing her cell phone number, possibly sending her to a new school, and if not you can go to the school and personally request that these bullies are not in her classes. I would take it seriously because you always hear on the news about kids committing suicide and things like that due to bullies and wanting to belong!

Answer 11

Why not enroll her in dance or something that she can build talent in?

Typically this may also help with self-esteem and feeling good about herself.

She will have a team of friends to boost her spirits as well.

Answer 12

first of all tell your little girl that, girls pick on girls because of jelousy. yes give her a party! i love it, that is awesome, make the party's theme, your daughter! wow i bet that would boost her confidence a little. what do you think! s***w those other girls!

Answer 13

If she has some good friends a summer party would be great.  Just make sure she does not invite the bullys.  Maybe she could even invite some other kids from her school so that she can make good friends before school starts back, then she will have her own little group.

Answer 14

People are going to jump all over me--but have you considered enrolling her in a martial arts class? It is not just so she can beat up the bullies--I don't favor that sort of thing, except as a last resort. But it will give her some confidence in this area--and it is fun, and good exercise--and will bring up her self-esteem