My 12 year old son still wets the bed. I have tried everything!?

Question

I have tried restricting drinks after dinner. He is only allowed to drink water or apple squash as the doctor said orange or blackcurrant irritates the bladder. I have tried the bed alarm which scared him half to death. I have tried waking him to go to the loo when I go to bed - but nothing works. Any ideas?

Answer 1

my brother had the same prob he went to the doctors and they gave hime small round pills and it worked

but i am not telling you to get these or anything just ask the doctors

a nicer one this time

Answer 2

is he having any troubles? is he having a scary dream?

try to mentally help him instead of physically if you tried everything

Answer 3

I wet the bed until I was 14. He is not being lazy, some people just sleep too deep to wake up or their bladder isn't strong enough to hold it until morning. My doctor gave me a pill called DDAVP. Ask your doctor about it, if you take one a night, you won't wet the bed. I know this sounds sketchy, me suggesting drugs for your child but either research it or ask your doctor about it. It works and eventually your mind just learns to wake up without it. Thats what happened to me and I never experienced side affects. I hope this helps you and your son.

Answer 4

get him to wear pullups i know it sounds embarrassing but it worked for me and eventually he'll grow out of it.

Answer 5

My mom tried everything with my brother too...I think it has something to do with anxiety they say too btw but my brother didn't stop until he was like 14 and even did it like once or twice til he was 16 then he just stopped like that.

Answer 6

Adult depends. it will save you from doing his sheets. i would take him to a councilor. sounds to me like there is an underlying issue that he isn't telling you about. have him talk to someone that he feels comfortable with.

Answer 7

will resolve eventually   /  I was nearly 18  .but no problems since   .

Answer 8

Look at this website for some advice, it's really good and accurate; http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/conditions/b...

Answer 9

It may sound harsh but you need to get angry with him do something like say "your old enough to learn to controll yourself, you are to go to the toilet before you go to bed and if you wet your self then you will wash the bedding."

Also try sticker charts, there never too old.

Answer 10

Ask your doctor for a referral to your local continence advisor. Most areas have one. They will be experts in incontinence and will have a range of stratagies to help you help your son. Various medications that supress urine production at night are available, along side mechanical aids such as the alarm or others. Also press your doctor to do some tests to check if there is a physical cause ie, irritable bladder or small bladder that could be dealt with. Perhaps a long seated low grade infection. Tell your doctor the impact this is having on your son - does it stop him having sleepovers at friends or going camping with scouts. It must be having a pychological impact on your son and this needs addressing. Your son needs your support and from what you have written you are doing what you can. Now its time to call in the proffessionals.

Answer 11

It might get better by itself but if you are really worried, get him referred to an enuresis clinic (bed wetting clinic) via your GP.  The most probably have one at your local hospital run by Consultant Urologists.  He might also be so stressed with the thought of doing it that it may be making him do it more.  Try and make sure he's relaxed and that nothing is worrying him.  This may help too.  Other than that, GP and referral would most probably be the next route I would take.  Good luck. x

Answer 12

nothing probably will never work. but don't give up, theres an answer out there somewhere.

Answer 13

You seem to be doing all you should.....dont give him any drinks before bed....make sure he goes to the loo before bed, and if necessary wake him up every couple of hours....thats all I can think of.....if he still wets the bed after that regime then see another Doctor.....he must have some medical condition.

Answer 14

he'll oneday learn to control his bladder just leave it i was like that up until i was 8 and it came gradually so just dont try and do anything it will come naturally

Answer 15

Is he a deep sleeper?

Maybe he doesn't realize he needs the toilet

Try making him wear nappies or setting an alarm like every 4 hours for him to go to the toilet

Answer 16

Don't allow him to drink any fluids at all 2 hours before bedtime. Quite simply if his bladder is full then he will be predisposed to go.

Answer 17

I had the same problem. The doctor told me to strengthen my bladder. I did this by doing little exercises. Like pull it up and hold for 30 seconds over and over, then do like 100 little pulls ups with your bladder. If that makes ANY sense.  It worked too. I no longer wet the bed because my bladder is more muscular and therefore can hold for longer. Have him do the exercises.

He's not being lazy, that's appalling they said that. Some kids just have this problem. I found it very embarrassing, but after 3-4 months of exercising each morning when I got up and each night before I went to bed, the problem went away.

I hope you can understand what I mean as it REALLY helps! My doctor told me to do this after I had the same problem. It works!

Good luck to you and your son. :)

Answer 18

this to shall pass

Answer 19

My eldest brother was the same.

It'll soon pass.  

It's quite normal.

Answer 20

restricting drinks before bed time, going to the bathroom before bedtime are all things that should be done. I heard being warm in ur bed prevents bedwetting. When hes cold its more susceptible. You could talk to your doctor about any medication he can use to stop the bed there are medications like desmopressin  that do work well. But he has to be willing to take a pill every night. There are probably other medications to use. Talk to his doctor.

Answer 21

I don't know what country your in but Pampers make a special underpants for boys and girls who wet the bed.  It allows them to sleep over, or have friends over without them being embarrassed about bed wetting.  It's similar to pull-ups but they are designed for older children who wet the bed.  It sounds to me that he is a deep sleeper and he may subconsciously know he has to pee and he may in his dream think he is in the bathroom.  I had a foster son who did this until age 13.  His bladder developed enough where it stopped.  I have a friend who is 34 and he was told his bladder still hasn't developed beyond the age of 12.  It maybe your son's bladder is under-developed to the point where it can't contain much.  Have the doctor do tests to find out the stage of growth your son's bladder is at.

Answer 22

I come from a family of bedwetters and it will taper off after puberty.  His bladder is still maturing.  Ironically, when my youngest was put on allergy medicines (Claritin/Zyrtec) he stop wetting the bed.