My 12 yr old daughter has a bad attitude

Question

my 12 year old daughter came home today and was really rude to me, her grandma and her aunt. i was embarrassed! then after everyone left i made her stay down with us for 1 hr. she is usually up in her room texting, on the computer and listening to music. as i was yelling at her about her behavior she just said im leaving and we had to convince her to stay! im so sick of this attitude! i dont know what to do anymore!

Answer 1

Oh come on raise your daughter. Its not going to be easy and she is definetly not going to like you through a lot of it. Don't get embarassed I guarantee that one time or another that you grandma dealt with the same kind of thing with you. Just make her do what you think is best. You seem to be doind pretty well with the making her stay. Do not let her start saying no to you. That is a slippery slope. Don't second guess your parenting. Be confident!!

Answer 2

lol sucks for you all teenagers do it

Answer 3

I'm 12, I know how she feels. Maybe if you threaten to take away her phone, computer and/or stereo (or if she's really bad, then actually do it... don't let her lose respect for you- I lost respect for my mom and the only way she can make me do anything is if she makes my dad punish me) and then leave her alone for a bit. Then both of you can cool off. That's what I have always wished my mom would do with me. If she leaves me alone, I'll do whatever she wants me to do. But if she lectures me and is always standing right there over my shoulder watching everything I do I get pretty annoyed. (then I get grounded for attitude)  

Answer 4

Sorry, this is blunt, but she's a teenager, or almost. If its not going to get worse, it's going to stay the same. She'll learn as she gets older not to be like this, its a stage.

Maybe you could give her some consequences like you did today (the 1 hour thing...). You could try taking away her cellphone, or computer.

Good luck, and remember she's just a teen!

Answer 5

Congrats ur the parent of a teen!

Answer 6

send her to army  

Answer 7

She's a teen now. You're a parent of an teen. I'm not a parent, but by looking at this sectiin, it is just full of obnoxious teens. You should be able to stick it to her. She's not older than you. If she acts like a brat, be sure to tell her she needs to stop what she's doing and take a good look at who's she's giving an attitude to. If she continues. No computer, TV, music, or friends for 3 days. But, she's a teen. A girl one at that! It'll boil over

Answer 8

It's her hormones. Shes becoming a teenager and growing up. You have to accept the fact that she is not your little baby anymore. Sure, it'll take a while to relize she is growing up but im sure you'll understand soon.

Answer 9

I'm 13, and live with my brother. My parents are teaching in africa.

and if I give him attitude he warns me.

Hormones. it happens.

If he tells me again I'm grounded for a day.

If he has to tell me again he spanks me.

It seems to ALWAYS work.

Maybe you should try that with your daughter.

Or instead of spanking make it two days of grounding....

Answer 10

Hormones..=]

Don't worry..she'll get over it..and if she ignores you or acts rude when u ask her about meals..just dont prepare her anything!

Then she will learn to act more nicely and also take away her cellphone or PC..

But remember ..she's almost a teen and is passing through a stage everyone had to pass through.

When i was 12, i was the same and my mom would just ignore me and i just got over it now =]

Answer 11

Its something the majority of girls do when they hit their pre-teen/teen years. She's rebelling against you because you're her mother and she thinks that by distancing herself from you it makes her more mature and independent. Just include her in family things and limit her computer/cell phone time.

Answer 12

Welcome to the teen years.

Answer 13

Don't grounded her, it will make her soooooo mad.

Let her be what she wants, and cook her rice for dinner. It will make her stop.

I've a lot of experiences with my mom, she lets me do a lot of stuff because she rather knowing what I'm doing.

Answer 14

congratualations, your a parent of a teenager!

Answer 15

It's called hormones and my husband's daughter also changed at 12 from a sweet girl to a heartless spoiled punk. All I can say is try to control it while you can and don't have battles of wills. Just lay down the rules and let her know that's how it is and rules are not negotiable. My husband waited too long to discipline her and when she hit him and told him to "F*** Off" at age 13 he was powerless to do anything about it. Now he realizes he should've disciplined her long before that and not ignored how rude she was to him. She lives with her mom now and has been trashing her dad for the past 3 years.

Put a time limit on her texting and computer usage and put some spyware on her computer so you know what she's saying with her friends.  

Answer 16

To quote Grandad Freeman...."Have you tried beating her asss?"

Answer 17

I'm gonna be 12 in like a week...

i believe in spankings but not after a certain age

if shes almost a teen i don't think you can do any good by that anymore...

you have to show her that she can NOT disrespect you like that in one way or another.but i cant really help you with those ways cause i ain't a parent lol

Answer 18

Thats hormones for ya!

I'm 13 and the hormones in my body have just started kicking in, sometimes, I get pissed off at the smallest things. Just let her be, it's a stage and it's definately not her fault, she'll outgrow it.