My 13 year old daughter needs help socially.?

Question

She attended a camp with some of her classmates from school. Those classmates bonded together but she felt isolated from them. Part of it is her problem - she sends out an unfriendly vibe because she thinks they do not like her.which isolates her even more. How do I help her see that she needs to change her attitude without making her feel worse about herself? She does have a couple close friends but I am afraid that she is becoming too dependent on only them for friendship.

Answer 1

When I was younger. I wouldn't talk to anyone... but now... I am making friends with everyone. She just have to grow out of it.

Answer 2

Just explain to her how to introduce herself and get her to talk to someone about her confidence.

Answer 3

I have the same problem. I am anti-social when it comes to meeting new people, and I don't have too many friends.

But maybe she might feel below them.

Or maybe she has low self-esteem.

But it's okay, you just need to ask her if everything's fine.

Communication is the key.

But I was diagnosed with chronic depression, and I took medicine.

I don't think this is the same problem, though.

Don't worry.

Answer 4

tell her to open up more around other people

im sure shes a great person just shy and self consious

i used to be the exact same way so i know how she feels

just tell her to get out there and be herself and not to care about wat other people think bout her and if they dont like her than thats their own lose and she can find better people

good luck:) <3

Answer 5

well the only way your going to find out is if you ask what is truely going on. but if u wanna get her some frends may b you could do something for herappearance like get her a new hair cut that every one will love or buy her some clothes from places like abercrombie hollister and areopostale! also take her to get some make up! and jewelry too. if people like what she's wearing then then go up to her and say something like "Hey, thats soo cute" you no?and she can take it from ther if she wants more frends!

Answer 6

Girls like boys go through different bonding episodes. The good news is your daughter has already  started making choices of her own, she has chosen a few good mates, buds, girl friends she feels accepted. This is a great vibe, encourage her don't challenge it. See if she will go out for a sport or anything physical with them too, or gaming or social, like swimming, making a picnic together, skating , cooking any and everything. Then encourage her to take up something private just for her, pottery , working with clay or painting. When she has a birthday kick out the wails, have it w/ a pottery class or a skating party. Be known for her parties you and her give as well. Encourage, encourage, encourage and get Dad involved. We did it all with the above. My daughter grew really well socially. Good luck to you

Answer 7

well she sounds as if she gets bullied and doesnt talk to you about it. that hits home with me , but lifes like that. she needs to think outside the square to sit back and imagine that she was watching her life on tv and put herslf in someone elses shoes and see what it feels like. as many people have things going on in their lives the point here is you need to keep her busy enough that this is the last thing she worries abouttake care and put yourself in her shoes what would you feel like?