My 13 year old daughter told me she was going to kill herself?

Question

My daughter lost her phone about a week ago. I told her to wait until the 1st before we buy her a new phone, because I don't want it to turn up anywhere. I already warned her I will only buy $30 or under phone. If she wants any more expensive one, she can pay for it. Today, she found 1 on ebay and she was begging me to give her my $30 today so she can buy it (with the money she had, it was just enough). I told her no multiple times. She told me she was going to kill herself. Should I be worried?

Answer 1

Maybe she has some problems

or she just wants you to get scared

try like threaten her saying you will take her to a therapist she might get scared

Answer 2

well im a 14 year old girl and if my mom told me that she'd give me $30 for a phone and then when i asked for it she didnt give it to me I'd be mad as h**l...but i dont think that she would actually kill herself over that....

Answer 3

No.

Because i say that to my mom so many times

I am 13 to.

Lol its kinda childish.

and if my mom does not give in i get over it,

not if you see with a gun or knife in her hand then be worried

Answer 4

No. She's just trying to get you to cave in and buy her the more expensive phone. Don't worry about it.

Answer 5

not unless she has anything she could kill herself with, a gun, rope, you know.

its probably a bluff, why would someone kill themselves over a phone?

Answer 6

umm just talk to her but yeah i would be worried

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Answer 7

No, trust me. I'm 12 and I have done that multiple times, but my parents never believed me and I never did, so no, she most likely won't.  

Answer 8

If your daughter is serious about killing herself over a doggone cell phone, then you have some serious problems in your home.  If your daughter is giving empty threats about killing herself over a doggone cell phone, then you still have some serious problems in your home!  You should be worried- not that she'll actually commit suicide, but of the reason she'll get so dramatic about a material possession. People who threaten to kill themselves are likely wanting help or attention.  In this case, your daughter probably wants attention and I suggest you give it to her in the form of some discipline and take some time to reevaluate what your family deems important.

Answer 9

I really think you should be worried because i think you should talk to her about it and try to get her some help so it wont happen

Answer 10

It's good to hear NO! from a parent more than once. Even while the child is acting 4 years old ya know? There should be times you say yes of course, but hearing no will help them build up responsibility for when they do get something. As for her saying she's going to kill herself, I doubt she really means it. Although to see if she means it, take notes of her behavior. Better safe than sorry right! Get her help if she shows any signs of being abnormal. :) Best of luck to you.

Answer 11

do you usually cave to her threats, if yes then she's just trying to get her way.  If you truly think she is serious then take her to a hospital and check her in.  

Answer 12

haha i honestly don't think that should make you worried at all. no person will kill themself because they can't buy what they want. i have told my mother this several times, but i never do it.

Answer 13

Who can say? Usually if people make statements like this you enquire further until you are convinced otherwise or you become more concerned and take further action. You can only go on what she says so on the information you have given one would have to assume that she will carry this out.  

Answer 14

If you truely believe you daughter is going to kill herself over a $30 phone, then either your stupid or your daughters autistic.

Answer 15

I always say this when I get so angry I can not think of anything else to say, so it is probably an empty threat, but you shouldn't just assume that, you should take her by the arm, stare at her and say

"If you say that to me one more time, I WILL take you to R wing (crazy house) and I WILL let them take you" then let her go and pretend nothing happened.

Answer 16

No, she isn't going to kill herself over a phone.  She is, however, trying to guilt you into changing your mind.  Tell her if she keeps it up, she'll have to wait another month.

Answer 17

No.. she is just being dramatic.

I would hope your daughter wouldn't kill herself over a phone..

thats kind of ridiculous.

Tell her to take better care of her stuff

Answer 18

hmmm... yeah, pretty sure you should be worried.

This is something people shouldn't say just because of something like that. She shouldn't be taking such an idea so lightly. At the very least, I think you should let her know how serious such a threat could be.

EDIT: Not one person here knows what your daughter is actually thinking or feeling. Only professional help will help you find out. Why take the chance by blowing it off as a "temper tantrum"?

If she gets used to using such a threat, one day she just may attempt... or worse.... she may succeed.

Answer 19

No, but I would be angry that my child thinks she can manipulate and frighten me into giving her material objects.

If she were my daughter, she'd be grounded.

All the best.

Answer 20

No, you don't have to worry.

when kids get upset, they say things like that to get their parent's attention.

she thinks if she says this you'll change your mind.

that's basically what it is.

Answer 21

She wont kill herself suicide is not a easy thing to do. I would buy her the phone she wanted but not let her use it until the 1st. If your daughter attempts to kill herself have her call me at 501 253 4496.

Answer 22

No, you shouldn't. She's just trying to manipulate you into getting what she wants. I'm guessing that this isn't the first time that she's done this. Don't let her get her way just because she's making threats that she won't follow through with.

Answer 23

i would recommend a therapist for these occasions.

dont test he out because she could commit suicide.

my sister wanted to commit suicde. (she stood on the 11th floor balcony railing.)

the therapy actually worked.

Answer 24

This could be serious depending on the personality of your daughter. If she's a drama queen you can be expecting this from her quite often due to her raging hormones. But if she's the quiet, obedient type, she may have some problems she needs to talk about.

Clearly, she's upset. You should talk to her about this and try to understand her feelings and seek help if things don't seem right.

As a mom, you should take things like this seriously because you just never know, but I think she's just really upset.

Basic everyday things build up on some kids and make them feel overwhelmed, depressed, or just upset. An example is this link I am providing. A lot of kids need attention because of their personality.

"My parents hate me, my dad abuses me and calls me names and wants me to bow down to him, my mom tells me to knock it off every time I try to talk to her about any problems."

http://groups.teenhelp.org/archive/index...

This above scenario probably isn't true, but sometimes teens think the whole world is against them. Like I said, talk to her and make sure she knows you're serious. Let her know not to say things that aren't true and she doesn't mean because if she had said that at school, it would have been taken VERY seriously and it would create trouble for you both.

Answer 25

No. She's obviously just exaggerating. If your daughter truly is thinking about killing herself because she can't have a phone right now, then you should take her to a psychiatrist.

Answer 26

Yes.  She needs to be evaluated by a mental health counselor.  My son told me the same thing and he wound up in a psychiatrist hospital for 2 months getting treatment for depression.  This is not something a kid just says to get your attention.  Get her the help she needs and that help does not include a new phone.  

Answer 27

Honestly I have never met your daughter so I can't say for sure if you should be worried or not. I would say that since she is 13 it probably was more of the "I hate everything in the world and you aren't making it any easier so I hate you and I Hate the world and I would be better off dead" rants that teenagers have.

If you are concerned over the statement then I would suggest talking to her and seeing where her head really is.  

Answer 28

Call the police right now. Can you live with yourself if you didn't do anything about it and she kills herself? Even if she gets mad at you she will be alive. She needs to be evaluated by doctors immediately. Wait and you may be wishing you had done someting sooner rather than ask that on here.

Answer 29

I really doubt that she would just kill herself just because of that.

Even though some people are different,I'm 13,without cell phone (or ipod)and I never tried to kill myself because of that.

Unless you know of something else that is wrong,she probably isn't serious and just wants atttention.

Answer 30

dont take it lightly i mean sometimes they just say it to scare you into doing something other times their being serious. i'd keep a close eye on her. but honestly she needs to lighten up the first is tomorrow.  

Answer 31

I read somewhere that a large percent of people who commit suicide don't tell anybody, they just do it.  

She's just using that as a threat so she will get her way, don't give in.  

I doubt anyone would end their life over a phone.