My 13 year old niece moved in with me today, I have some ?s for parents of girls this age?

Question

What are some appropriate rules to set for her, in regards to: Myspace, makeup, boyfriends, etc. She is a good kid with a good head on her shoulders, but she is gorgeous and has the body of a woman! My sister was very strict on her, and I want to give her some freedom, but not too much, of course! She says she has a boyfriend, and I told her I would like to invite him over sometime, and she was really excited about that, which made me feel like she has nothing to hide. What limits do you set for your 13 year old? (BTW she will be going into 8th grade, if that helps) Thanks so much!

Answer 1

Myspace-She's still too young to have one. I'm pretty sure you have to be 14 years and older. Besides, myspace is bad. There are other ways to talk with your friends besides myspace

Makeup-Not too much. Eyeliner, lip gloss and mascara are enough.

Boyfriends-Encourage her to be open with you about her relationships with guys. It tells her that she can tell you anything about her relationships and you won't judge her.

Over all, just be her guardian and her friend. Reward her when she gets an A on a test in a subject that she struggles in the most. Surprise her by taking her out to lunch once in awhile. Listen to what she has to say. If she asks about something that is wrong like s*x or drugs, don't assume she's doing it. Most of all just give her her space when she needs it.

Answer 2

Myspace-Wait until she's 14

Makeup-Keep it pretty natural but get a couple of colors for eyeshadow if you want.

Boyfriends-Tell her what you think is right.

I'm 14, just letting you know.

Answer 3

check her myspace randomly(so she can hide nothing and have her tell who her friends are), let her makeup be her freedom, have her tell you about her boyfriends and look at their myspace(if they dont have one i suggest meet them), and a curfew..

Best of Luck :]

Answer 4

Let her get a myspace set her profile to private.

Make up is ok just probably only for special "dates" and other outings not everyday

I wouldn't let her go with just her and her boyfriend on a date but double dating or being in a group is probably fine.

Do not give her every single thing she wants but expect that some things she will need in her mind that you might not think neccasary. Make sure she appriciates everything and is thankful not spoiled. And she will always love you so don't get too upset if she yells when mad.

(I am not a parent but a 14 year old girl)

Answer 5

-No myspace. You're suppose to be 14.

-When she goes out with friends like biking, home before street lights..(my parent's rule)

-Not to much make up, maybe lipgloss, & blush.

Answer 6

she can have a myspace but her profile has to be set to private.

home by 8 on weekends

7 school nights

makeup to enhance her beauty not cover it up,tell her when she's wearing too much.

boyfriend allowed in her room with the door open. after the second offense of her violating this rule, take the door away.

Answer 7

im 13 going into 8th grade :)

myspace, yes, as long as its on private, you can look at it to make sure its okay, and that she doesnt say her first and last name and stuff.

makeup, yes, as long as she doesnt use too much.

boyfriends, yes, just meet him and make sure he's okay and is a good kidd=]

let her go out, latest at like 10 on weekends, and make sure a parent is driving her home. and always make sure a parent is at the house shes staying in!!! (trust me, its not about fire hazards and stuff, but my friends have boys come over and hang out. who knows what could happen?!!?)

if she has a project or a test, dont let her go out the night before.

and i would be sooo excited to move in with my aunt! when i sleep over at her house, she talks to me and stufff. like ask her how her life is, give her advice, etc. ex., i had alot of stress in my life, and shes the one i talk to for advice, help and support.

Answer 8

Okay, I am 13 too. Obviously I am not a parent, but I will still answer:

~Myspace: She can have one, but set her profile to PRIVATE. Tell her not to talk to anyone she dosn't know from school or other activities.Maybe even ask her for her password, but I wouldn't reccomend that :)

~Make-up: As long as she keeps it semi-natural and dosn't cake it on so she looks like a s**t ore a clown, she is probably okay

~Boyfriends: Here is the tough one. She OBVIOUSLY has had the s*x talk before, but you might want to tell her NOT TO DO IT. Also, her boyfriend can come over so you can meet him, but no spending timde at either homes unless an adult is present :)

:)

Answer 9

I am 16, 17 next month so I'll totally help you out

Myspace~mmm let her have one.  She'll be going into high school soon, but just encourage her to respect herself on it.  Tell her to keep her language in check, and to not post racy pictures that demean her or others

Let her wear makeup.  Make her take it off if she looks trashy, of course, but I see nothing wrong with some mascara and blush

You made a good move already with the boyfriend, including him in family time.  Don't allow them to be alone together.   No boys in bedrooms, ESPECIALLY not with the door closed.  She may be a confident young woman but anything can happen.

If you have any other questions I'll be happy to help.  My email is accessable, and I'd love to hear from you.

Answer 10

!. s*x must be with protection.

2, if u drink dnt go over bored n eat

3. make up is only allowed when going out n when used right

4. myspace must not have nummbers or things that coulf allowed freak to see u.

5.homework must be done after tea

bed time is 11 pm on school night n 1 on weekends

6 msn is only allowed for 4 hrs a day after homework

Answer 11

Let her have a Myspace. Personally, I don't think you need the password for it. People argue, "If she doesn't have anything to hide, why would she care?" Well, there's things on there that aren't necessarily bad, but some things she my want to keep private. Like I don't know if she's talking to her friends about her period or something. Let her wear what makeup she wants. I mean, as long as she doesn't make her self look like a racoon. LOL. Let her have a boyfriend. But, he has to be somewhere around her age, and you have to meet them. They can hang out in school, but, they can't go on dates alone, they have to have some friends with them. Hope I helped!

EDIT-Also, let her have a Myspace but make her set the page to private and tell her to only add people she knows too.

Answer 12

like the others said, let her have the myspace, set to private, and only adding people she knows.

as for makeup, well, it's her choice. at 13 my mom let me wear just about anything, but i figured sometimes mascara, eyeliner, and blush was okay.

get to her know her friends/boyfriend, make her feel comfortable with you knowing she can have people around, and an awesome aunt who would enjoy that. =)

with where she goes with her boyfriend, encourage her to have other people around with her at the same time, like her friends and maybe perhaps thier boyfriends could be a suggestion ?

make sure she has a curfew set for different days, such as weekends, maybe around 10 ? and school nights, depending on where she's going, around 7 or 8.

i'm sure you'll do fine. =)

Answer 13

I think thats an awesome idea to invite the bf over. Get to know him and make him feel like he's welcome. That way they won't go off to god knows where to do god knows what.

If she goes somewhere you must always know. I think if she does have make up, maybe you should show her how to wear it so she doesn't look S****y. She'll most probably enjoy the girly time with you.

Let her know you trust her and if she needs to speak to you about ANYTHING, not to be scared to.

If she has a good head on her shoulders then chances are she will do the right thing by you.

About myspace, the first answer is a good one - get her to set it to private and she shouldn't talk to ppl she doesnt know

Answer 14

hi i'm not a parent but i'm a kid fourteen exactly myspace should be fine moniture her on there but don't be over protective because i think everyone not just kids realizes that if you give a kid to much rules or are to strong when punishing they becoming more wild .. be cool about it don't be like her mom was give her more freedom but don't let the fact that punishing her might get her mad stand in the way because there will be no respect trust me :]

Answer 15

Hm...she's pretty young. I think if she has a good head on her shoulders she's fine in the guy category. Just have to make sure she's ok these next few years. A curfew for when she has to be home, don't think myspace is the best idea, makeup can be experimental if you want to help her with it. 13 yr olds don't get into a whole lot of trouble, or can't if i can say that. just make sure she's acting normal and nothing's wrong and you'll be fine.