My 13 year old wants to have a slumber party for all her friends.?

Question

My 13 year old wants to have a slumber party for her friends before we move next week. I told her she could only invite 10 people.She wants to invite Denise her friend from her school. I don't want Denise over my house because she likes to give my daughter drugs.I tried to talk to Denise's parents about their daughter but they think it's okay and that she should go. What else should I do?

Answer 1

Be a responsible parent and supervise. There are so many parents these days that just let their children go and do what they want unsupervised. It is refreshing to know that someone is so concerned about their children

Answer 2

watch her

you will definitly beable to tell if she/both of them are high

and watch what she does

check on them frequently

Answer 3

i think since your the parent that you are the one in control and you only want whats best for your daughter..i think you should set down the rules...and besides your daughter should be asking for your permission on who she should be inviting..but do whats best for your daughter..

Answer 4

Confront Denise about it and keep an eye on her all night.  

Answer 5

I would have a talk with your daughter, Denise and her parents.  I would let them know that Denise could come to the slumber party but all activities would be monitored very closely.  I would also check her belongings upon arrival and if I found anything I didn't like, she would be asked to leave.  

Answer 6

Wow...that's what the dad's for in my world, he's has no problem coming off as the bad guy.

I guess you have to tell Denise she's welcome, and then have a long talk with her, (her parents allow her to do whatever, so let them think your a wacko! then maybe they'll decide to not let her go over) and try to show Denise the real world...and if she comes across to you again as a druggie, tell her you tried to help her, and now your going to have to be a bitc- and tell her to not come back because she's clearly a foolish, irresponsible girl.  She'll probably not want to come back anyway if you make the talk really long and awkward!

Answer 7

If your daughter is moving away and will never see Denise again, I would say O.K., but absolutley tell your daughter sternley - no drugs. And when Denise shows up at the door you could maybe even say -  you can't come in if there's drugs on hand. If you do decide to invite her, keep close eyes on all of the kids. If you feel like it, set up a secret camera hidden in the place their sleeping, so in the night you see if the drugs come out.

But go with your head. If this girl is bad into drugs, say No but maybe offer to take your daughter and Denise to mini golf or something to pay it off and something you can watch them full time.

Good luck!

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Answer 8

Who's house is it, your daughters? No, its yours. If you don't want her there, then, Denise doesn't come. If your daugther puts up a stink about it, then no slumber party. Put your foot down.

My daughter, 13 has a friend that I don't like. She's been involved with drugs and is well known to the police (I'm one of those officers) and no matter what, my daughter always thinks I'm unfair, or that her poor friend is the victim. Too bad. I don't want this friend around mine, and that's just the way it has to go.

Answer 9

dont let her come  

Answer 10

Talk to your daughter about it. Tell your daughter what's right and wrong. If you think you can trust her then let her invite her friend. If you don't think so tell her it's not a very good idea. Or you could just have her friend come over but keep a careful watch on her.

Answer 11

don't worry about it actually do you should just say she is not allowed over

Answer 12

JUST SUpervise ur daughter so she won't take nothing from her... or talk to ur daughter, or just close the door when she comes..lol

Answer 13

you should talk to your daughter then give her choices say you can have the slumber party if you tell your friend no drugs or don't have the slumber party  

Answer 14

  I have to assume Denise is within a few years of 13. If I were you,

I would give my Daughter a choice, as well as Denice. Something along the lines of, "If I even hear of the two of you being within a block

of each other, I will call Police, Family Services,and any other Agency I can think of.

listen Mom your girl is 13!!!! Where is the question here. Having buried 2 sons from o.d.'s, and believe me I fought hard, and continue to do so.

But please, this is LIFE and DEATH. If you allow that poison near your girl, you are not doing your job as a parent.

Answer 15

yea she old enough shes at the age where guy come better she gonna do it like it or not just check up and listen  make sure nothing bad is going on

Answer 16

if a friend is posing a threat to your daughter and her health...then she should not be invited...you will not always be able to keep an I on them both...

what kind of drugs are we talking about...legal or illegal....