My 13 yr old son has a girlfriend..aawwww?

Question

My 13 yr old son has a girlfriend. This girl is not his first girlfriend but a some what serious one. For example holding hands and kissing. He told me he would like to go to his bank and take out a few dollars ($50.00) to buy her something nice. Now, I understand this is his money. He earned this money by doing his chorus, birthday money, etc. But I do NOT want him to spend it on some girl who will be replace with a different girl when school starts. Yes, I am guessing a new girl will come in place but his only 13 wouldn't a Happy Birthday hug be just fine???

Answer 1

I agree with Tina

Answer 2

How sweet! How about a compromise and a $20 gift? There are plenty of nice things you can get a 13 y/o girl for $20...a necklace maybe?

Answer 3

First, $50 is not "a few dollars." That's a whole day's earnings on minimum wage. It's a lot of money, especially for a 13-yr-old who can't even hold a minimum wage job.

He should really only spend A FEW DOLLARS -- like $10 or less.

Second, why are you letting him date at 13? You know the relationship is going to end. Well, when relationships end, it's usually one person ending it and the other person getting a broken heart. Do you want him to suffer a broken heart every 3 months until he finally finds the right girl as an adult? Have you ever considered what that experience would do to his ability to have good relationships? Or think of this, since boys that age love girls the way they love pizza and video games, he's probably not the one getting the broken heart. Are you okay with him wounding a different girl every 3 months? Because as I'm sure you remember, when a girl says "I love you," she really means LOVE. Not mature love, but honest, heart-felt love.  Or if they aren't in love at all, do you really think this is good training, teaching him it's okay to hook up for 3 months and dump the chickie when she bores him? What kind of a man are you trying to raise here?

Third, kissing and holding hands at 13 leads to heavy petting at 14 leads to s*x at 15 or 16. Because, you know, the relationships "get more mature" each time, so they have to take the affection up a notch. How is this a good idea?

Answer 4

i dont think he should get her a fifty dollar gift unless they have been dating for like a year. i think he shouldnt get her a fifty dollar gift because she will break up with himin a few weeks ne way... no offence i have seen this happen b4.

Answer 5

if this is the only girlfriend he's been kissing and holding hands that means they're truly in love. buying an expensive gift for her shows his love. as a parent though you also need to be in some what of control in parts of this relationship. just remember he's only 13yrs. the kissing i think may be to lovey dovey and to advanced for his age. you see when your kissing your hormons act up and he they might want to try the s*x part. so still try to keep a look out on him.

Answer 6

how are you so sure she will be replaced?

maybe its special...

tell him its not expensive gifts but gifts given from heart that really matters...

but let him do what he wants with his money..

if he wants to make this special... then maybe it really is.

sometimes things don't turn out what they could be because we don't let them...

don't take his decisions... let him take them and live his life... and have the realizations of his own decisions...

Answer 7

I have a 13yr old daughter, it's tough.  It is his money and he will have to learn the hard way if something goes wrong with the relationship.  I would give him a limit so he doesn't spend his whole savings on girls.  Girls (not all of them) when they date, they play a game of seeing what  nicest gift or most expensive gift they can get from a guy and then dump them.  I remember growing up  with something similar. Again not all girls , but some still do, so tell your son to be careful.

Answer 8

you know for ten dollars (depending where you live) kmart has earring sets ask your son to go with you sometime and have him look at them he wont even notice that hes not spending a ton of money but it is a nice gift in my town there are 20 earrings in one set and they come in tin thats decorated

Answer 9

Let him buy her what he wants to.  This will teach him a lesson that special girls are the ones who deserve to have money spent on them.   Its sweet he wants to spend money on her-- most boys i knew when i was 13 wouldnt even think of it

If he does, and they break up, he'll learn a lesson for the next time

:)

Answer 10

it's just money,

at age 13 he gives her a present, at age 15 she is pregnant,

goodbye childhood.

it's just money

Answer 11

$50.00 is a tad bit too much, on a new 13 yr old girlfriend. LOL

Tell him to buy her something for $25.00. He can get her a nice bottle of Hollister or abercrombie perfume and a card for that.

she'll love it.