My 14 year old son is a late bloomer puberty wise, I can't deal with all his questions?

Question

Lately, all his friends have been talking about ejaculating. He is wondering alot why he is unable to ejaculate, and has become fixated on it. I have tired to explain medically; how should I talk to him about it?

Answer 1

This is a very good question. I figure you are a single Mom.

You could explain to Him that like girls, the human body developes at a rate that is appropriate. Each body sends a signal for the hormones to develope the testosterone ( which makes his voice lower,more hair on face ,chest ,arm & and other places, and bigger muscles). Some young boys start this stage at 11yrs old and some dont start until 15yrs. You could tell him that some times girls do the same thing. Ejaculation should be stressed to him that though it is part of being of his sexual identity, it doesnt define him.

You could tell him that you really doubt his little friends truely expierenced ejaculation. I mean if you want to really get gross about it . HA!

Otherwise you could find a good family male friend or take him in to the DR. and let them talk to him about it if you can't explain it thoroughly to him.

Good luck!

Answer 2

his friends are kinda weird. and why would your son tell you what his friends were talking about, especially when it comes to that?

Answer 3

Perhaps a book on puberty would help.  He can either read it himself or you can show him what the "experts" say.  If it still seems like a problem emotionally for him; take him to  his doctor.

Answer 4

just tell him he is a late bloomer. tell him its not his fault. he will be able too efoer he is 18 ut if he stresses abpout it then its going to take longer

Answer 5

Just tell him that some folks take longer to physically mature, and to be patient.  Puberty for boys can happen anywhere from 10-17 years old, with ejaculation being possible about a year after the onset of puberty.  If he was 16 or so and unable to ejaculate, I would consider contacting a doctor just to rule out any medical problems.  However, at this stage, I think he is more interested in 'being normal' than in any one symptom.

Answer 6

you can take him to a doctoe & they will answer all his questions.

Answer 7

can his dad or fav male relative explain things to him?.

Answer 8

If dad is in the picture, maybe he could explain it better. You could always try a book that will explain things, if you think he'll actually sit down and read it and understand it. You could consult his doctor on this. He might have some tips on explaining it in a way that your son will understand. But more likely than not, he'll figure it out on his own soon enough.

Answer 9

Just tell him that his time will come, no pun intended, when his body is ready.  Try not to let him know that you are uncomfortable with the subject.  If he feels he can't talk to you about s*x, he will talk to other people you might not approve of.  You might arrange for his next physical so that he can discuss it with his doctor.  You could also remind him that just because a boy is claiming it is happening to him, it might not be true.

Answer 10

Let his father or another male figure discuss this with him.  His friends have told him how great it feels so he will be fixated on it until he gets one off. When you answer his questions just be open and honest. He really doesn't want the text book version, his friends have already given him the street version now he wants to get that feeling.

Answer 11

he asks his mom about his p***s growth and orgasming??? weird kid youve got there.

Answer 12

try getting him a book on puberty - most of them have information in them about the late bloomers and they suggest ways for the kids to cope... there are also books for parents dealing with late bloomers... congrats on being a great parent and letting him know its okay to talk with you about these things... i wanted to die before i told my mom i started much less talk with her about something like this... she is an AWESOME mom but this just wasn't her area... good luck!

Answer 13

you are lucky

most teens  know it all

Just tell him wait your turn

it will happen

when the time is rite for him