My 15 month old is tapping other kids on the head...?

Question

My daughter is starting to tap other kids on the head lately. She will walk up to her 8 month cousin and tap him and he cries... So heres my problem...

She taps his head as she walks by and says hi... Then her auntie or grandma yell at her and tell her Stop that.. I think my daughter is just trying to get his attention because thats what she does to her dad and I. I do not like them yelling at my daughter like this because I really dont think she is trying to do harm... What do i do? or say? is it normal? I think they are being quit rude yelling at my daughter and thinking she is being so cruel to her cousin, her grandma even tapped her head back once WHICH totally made me ANGRY...Help??

Answer 1

if u don't like grandma and auntie telling ur little girl off then tell them shes ur daughter at the end of the day its up to u what u do with punishment

with ur little problem when u see ur daughter doing this go to her quickly and say no sweaty and get her to stroke hes hair or something to say hello  

Answer 2

My 15month old son does exactly the same thing, except he thinks he's funny. (But then he thinks everything he does is really funny!!)

Most importantly, an 8 month old still has a very soft head, so your daughter should not be tapping him on the head. Although it may be a light tap, light taps may lead to heavier taps if not dealt with immediately.

Your daughter needs to be reinforced that head tapping is not acceptable. This can be done with a firm NO everytime she does it, eye contact needed. It may take some time and constant reinforcement  but it will work. You and you husband also need to stop allowing her to tap your heads as it will be clearer to your daughter if no head tapping is allowed.

In the case of your family yelling at her and tapping her on the head is just plain wrong and I would be furious at them. I would definitely talk to them and ask that they stop the yelling.

Answer 3

If she's just 15-month old, certainly, she doesn't mean any harm. Kids that age still don't know what is right or wrong. They're being egoistic at this phase. They want all attention to be focused on them.  It can be that she got used to having herself as the only baby in the family and when she saw her cousin, she's like "Oh, another baby? No, I should be the only baby here!"

Or it can be that it's her way to be friendly with her cousin.

Since they don't know how to express themselves well yet, they do it in gestures (that they know is the right way, of course).

That's why parents are there to teach their kids about what is right or wrong. I think, the first time she did it with you and your husband, you should've already made her realize that it's not right, in a nice way of course.

As to her grandma and Aunt, yeh, it's not right for them to be that rude. They should've just done something for your daughter to realize what she did was wrong.

I'm not a mom yet. But I am an Aunt of 3 toddlers. I hope this one helps, even though you won't consider it as the best answer. ^^

Answer 4

well nobody has the right to yell at your daughter.. you have a right to stop that your daughter probably is jealous or wants attention from the little boy.. little kids dont know about harm but if the grandma taps on her head again yell at her and do it back its nt fair its a baby.  

Answer 5

i dont think shes jealous or wants attention. shes probably just trying to be friendly. grandma or aunt should not be yelling at her and if its bothering you that much you should talk to them about it.

heres where i think you have little problem, even though your daughter intends no harm a baby should not be hit/tapped in the head. i think you and your husband can break her out of it when she does it to you guys. just let her now nicely that its not ok to hit mommy or daddy in the head. have her gain your attention in another way.

im not a mom but i hope i helped

Answer 6

I don't think that your daughters actions should go unpunished if she is making him cry, but I also think that is isn't her aunt and grandma's place to punish her it's yours! You need to step in when she doesn't that and get down on her level and tell her hitting isn't nice. Don't let her do that to you or your husband or anyone. I don't think she is trying to be mean but that isn't the way to get attention. If they still step in and are mean to her after you punish her you need to tell them that you have it under control, pretty much in a nice way you need to tell them to back off, but you need to do something about it before then. Good luck.