My 15 year old is dating a total a**.

Question

My 15 year old daughter, is seeing a guy who can be found in the dictionary under "a**hole". He is disrespectful, especially to my daughter. She asks him " Does this shirt make me look fat?" and he answers " You don't need a shirt to make you look fat, you already are." He said it right in front of me. He pushes my 9 year old daughter around, burps in peoples faces,slaps MY butt. I told her i don't want her to see him because he's a total idiot. She said she loves him, She doesn't know what love is. My daughters Mature, and very laid-back. How can i get him OUT of the picture?

Answer 1

you and your 9 nine year old go to disneyland, they starve lol and when u get back your 15 year old will be askin u advice. Let them take care of them. They prob would do a good job and their relationship will fail.

Answer 2

It sounds like your daughter is in an abusive relationship. You need to get her out of it, fast! Ground your daughter if she won't stop going out with him, and make it clear to him that you don't want him anywhere near your daughter. If he comes on your property, call the police and charge him with tresspassing. Is he 18 or older? Is your daughter having s*x with him? If the answer to both questions is yes, then charge him with statutory rape! Because you're daughter is a minor, you have every right to keep her from dating this guy!

As the step-mother of a 14-year-old, you have my sympathy, and I wish you luck with this situation!  

Answer 3

Try out for the show parental control on MTV. I am totally serious! I bet that would get rid of him...

Answer 4

Parental Control hahaha

Answer 5

I'd love to tell you that you could coyly enquire as to whether they're having s*x, tell her there will infact be no dating below 16, and tell him if he continues to see your daughter you'll have him charged with statutory rape.  Then go get a restraining order against him for both you and your daughter as a minor - then ground her, or pack her off to a relative for a few weeks until she calms down and gets used to the idea that rules are rules.  

But... erality is, I think you'll have a hard job because you already allow her to date, so you don't get to control who she dates.  She'd probably elope with him rather than go backwards on her freedoms.  the sad part of this is not that she may even be having s*x so young (and therefore thinks this is the one/she's in love) but that she's setting a standard for future relationships and what she expects in terms of treatment.  

If it were me, I'd sit them both down and explain some basic principles that you expect in terms of behaviour, that are not up for discussion or negotiation.  Basic rules for your house, how you want to be treated in it and what you expect from others using it.  Damage limitation may be better than nothing since he's already here.  

Answer 6

you cant tell her who she can date.

and coming from a teen, even if you do say she cant see him anymore she will. it really doesnt matter what you say

i know it might be hard but you have to let her lve her own life.

you can however tell her that he is not aloud in your house. EVER.

:DDD  

Answer 7

shes not ready to be dating and his parents obviously did not raise him right. He is disrespectful, but just dating at 15 in the kind of world we live in today, with those kind of boys and boys who have only one thing on their mind is a no no. u could get him out of the pic by talking to his parents about it, and dont worry about ure daughters reaction to it shes young and she dosent understand, ure the parent, she'll thank you later when she marries a respectful young man who treats her with all the love he obtains :-) Hope all goes well!!!

Answer 8

if she is mature and laid back, she can find out on her own.  telling her how much you dislike him will make her disappointed on how you feel as you are disappointed in her decisions.  this won't stop her from seeing him since most teens like to challenge their parents and like to take their own route.  she'll eventually find out how much of a jerk he is.  he might hurt her in the process but if she really is mature enough, she'll learn.  they all do.

Answer 9

Hey, take control. IT'S YOUR HOUSE, HE'S UNDER YOUR ROOF. Tell your daughter she can see him-OUTSIDE of the house.  

Answer 10

your the parent tell her he is not welcome to your home. and tell her she really needs to think and learn what real love is.... she needs to understand by him disrespecting her family he is disrespecting her. he is using her!!! try a serious talk with her tell her to come up with a list of pros and cons about him. ask her if she was in your place what would she do. also ask her who is  a boyfriend suppose to treat her.  

Answer 11

It is clear that one day this guy will hurt your daugther, if not physically then emotionally.  However, since she is not listening to you about not seeing him you can at least set some restrictions.  Since YOU are the parent and YOU own the household, you have complete control of who goes in, so first things first you can tell her that she can continue to see him if she so wishes - out of the house.  It is best for your other children not to be around him from what you describe and he is very disrepectful to you.  Your daughter will most likely learn eventually but it is a good idea to let her learn for herself because if you force her to do things you will be considered the evil mom.

However, you must make sure that your daughter is safe, so be sure to not completely isolate yourself from the relationship.

Answer 12

sounds like the tv show, parental control... haha.

just tell/show her how rude he really is, and how much of an *** he truly is and she will learn.

if you ban her from seeing him, it will only make matters worse.

Answer 13

His behavior and actions are unacceptable. Inform your daughter that you have had enough of him and that she is to call him and explain to him why she can no longer see him, i.e. inappropriate comments, actions, and bullying your younger daughter.

You might want to make sure she doesn't try to contact him again.

And your daughter is NOT mature if she allows her boyfriend to bully her siblings and sexually harrass you. If my boyfriend did that, he'd be out the door before he could blink.

Answer 14

go on parental control

Answer 15

be very atentive ground her from seeing him and say it was for something else then talk to other parents and maybe even friends of hers and get them to tell her how much of a jerk he is