My 15 year old son has long and thick side burns. He tucks it behind his ears when in school. What to do?

Question

He refused to cut his hair according to school rules. It has been 5 months. He will only trim a bit when threatened by school authorites although I have been persuading him to cut. He is indisciplined in school, being accused as a mastermind in a stealing case. I also caught him with a handphone which he later claimed that he borrowed from his friend. He is also accused for stealing a handphone with the buyer ot the stolen phone accusing him of selling to him. Please help.

Answer 1

They have rules of what your hair should be like? Good on him, it's called EXPRESSING YOURSELF! We are free to look as we PLEASE!

Well, ask him seriously if he stole it. I think he probably did. Seriosly, when he isnt there take back the handphone or something. I don't know.

Mastermind in a stealing case? :S

Isn't that up to the police, then?

Answer 2

ask a doctor

Answer 3

while hes asleep sneak into his room cut off a piece  then he will be forced to cut his hair to even it out

Answer 4

So you're asking what to do about him stealing things and about his hair being too long?

Well, stealing is, of course, wrong. Threaten to take things away from him if you find hes still stealing.

As for his hair being too long, a school can't make you cut your hair...unless he goes to a private school. Just bribe him with something.

Answer 5

I find it interesting that your main questions talks about thick side burns, but in reading the rest of your question, the stealing issue comes out!! Wake up, Mom (or Dad)! It all speaks to rebellion and his inability to pay attention to rules.

First of all, get a spine and a thicker skin, for your son's sake. If he is doing this at 15, what will he be like at 20? At 30? In jail?

Call the school and encourage them to give him the max consequences for breaking the haircut rule. Support the school when they do, and then give him a consequence at home when he gets in trouble at school.

As far as the stealing, I would go up the chain...call the parents of the friend(s) that were involved with the handphone incident. Then get school authorities involved, then the police, and follow through with the consequences--support the authorities.

I can hear all the arguments about "ruining his life" and having a record at 15, but you are is best chance for help at this stage. This kid needs boundaries and 100% consistent parents. Lay down some rules and have consequences ready every time he breaks them.

He sounds very smart; if he realizes that his efforts at being a delinquent are failing, he maybe will put his smarts to good use.

Good luck.