My 15 year old son spends most of his time in his room. I’m so worried about him…?

Question

He wasn’t like that when he was in elementary or junior high. Now, he’s always in his room listening to music, reading, or on his computer. My husband and I rarely see him or talk to him even though we live in the same house. What should I do? Any advice?

Answer 1

like me (im 13,) he is just a teen and wants privacy i rarely stay in my room cause my room is a little junked ill get it cleaned up tomorro or the next day

Answer 2

leave him be....He is a teenager and wants privacy and you should respect that.

Answer 3

Well, do things as a family. If he's in his room 24/7 obviously you guys aren't doing anything at all as a family. Nows when you need to teach him to be a decent adult. now's the time to focus on teaching him to manage a budget, discuss life paths, start traveling and showing him "the world" ect. A 15 year old has no business being locked away all the time. That isn't healthy and is usually a warning sign of drug abuse, or depression. Time to get active as a family!

* wow, I guess some people are just that desireless. At 15 I was researching realestate, finance, and economics, in preperation for buying my home...which I did at 19. I guess some people have no ambition but to s***w off! That sucks for them!

Answer 4

I wouldn't worry too much about it.  After all, he is 15.  I think it's pretty normal.  

However, it would bother the mess out of me.  I think I would have mandatory family fun night once a week and have the family play games or cook out.  

Google family fun nights and see what ideas you can find.  Hopefully one will work for your household.  :)  

Good luck, little momma!

Answer 5

That is a typical 15 year old.Talking on the phone,music,reading magazines,zoning into their own little world,and sitting onthe computer.That is the typical life of a teenager.And sorry to say there are ppl complaining of their 12 year old doing this.So yeah hes in a tough world right now.He may not act like it or tell you but trust me.It sucks.Leave him be.He needs to start learning how he wants life and to be in control.18 is not that far off.

Answer 6

Many teenage guys go through this phase.  Leave him to his own devices... he wants to be there (video games???) lol when he wants to hang and do different things, he will, don't worry.  This is NOT unusual.

Answer 7

Im a 16 year old girl. Girls do tend to work differently then guys but this may be a little helpful. I love spending time with my freinds, siblings or just alone in my room with my laptop and music. He probably just wants more time to himself or wants to be more independant because it makes him feel better about things at school like girlfreinds or peer presure.

Answer 8

okay, I'm going to start talking like a kid here.

Look, your kid is fine. He's most likely masturbating (I'm just kidding here, that was just for humor...) but seriously, he's most likey just doing things on his own. He's starting to act more independent, starting to want to act like an adult.

Maybe he just wants to be alone? I'm like that. Sometimes I just don't want to be surrounded by my family all the time, we all do it! He just wants to be left alone and be given the respect he deserves when he asks for privacy.

He seems like a good kid, so when he's got a problem, he'll come to you.

You can't force him to tell you what's the matter, that will just make him turn away from you more. If you want to keep your son close you need to just give him his space, respect his terms, and allow him to come to you.

You could tell him that being an adult sometimes requires you two to talk like adults, in a mature fashion, if he's starting to get really troubled. But above all, just respect him. he's becoming an adult, and as much as you all don't want to hear it, sometimes he just won't need you to help him up.

Answer 9

It is nothing and he is fine.

Im 18 and a girl and I spend 90% of my time in my room.

I of course go do things with my family, I eat dinner with everyone. I do spend SOME time out of my room.

I mostly only leave if I have plans with friends or socccer.

Its totally normal. I was like that when I was that age too.

This away from everyone stage last quite a bit but its perfectly fine.

Don't bother him about it, or try to force him to spend more time out of his room, you'll just make him want to be in his room more.

Answer 10

Yes teens do need privacy but if u want to talk to him more aways have a family night( each week) on a day that he might not be busy with friends. Have a family dinner gather everyone around a table and eat together everynight. Talk to each other during that time about his day  and plans.

Remember he is still a teen he needs a lil space from his parents and he needs to spend more time with his friends =)

Answer 11

okay, teens like privacy, about 99.99999 percent of teens don't want their parents around them. I am so sorry i have to break this to you but, teens in general don't like their parents for a few years. In his 20s he'll get over it, but for now, let him be. a LOT of teens spend time in their room. You will just make it worse by getting in his business, trust me i know. You must hae been the exact same way, just let him be. and you should be happy he's not out doing drugs and that he's home READING

Answer 12

Teenagers are weird.

Answer 13

try to get him do something else like chores, errands, etc.

Answer 14

he is obviously g*y. he is having g*y s*x in his room with his african-mexican-puerto rican boyfriend, tico.

Answer 15

im coo coo for co co puffs.

Answer 16

I went through that stage around that age, I would just sit there and listen to the radio, daydream or something. The friends I had back then did the same thing. It is probably just a stage lots of kids go through. My mom just kinda left me alone about it, she said she was glad I was in my room instead of running the streets as did some of the kids around us then.

Sometimes when a kid says "nothing" it really does mean Nothing. :)

Answer 17

More than likely, he's just going through a wanting to be alone phase. it happens! But- as a parent, I would keep eye on subtle cues in his behavior that could indicate it's something more (such as depression). Always know what your kids are doing on their computer! Go through the files and make sure he's okay. Most likely he is.

Answer 18

Talk to him and let him know it bothers you and makes you concerned. Let him know you are there to talk to. Let him know you want to spend time with him and ask him why he always locks himself away let him know you miss seeing and talking to him. Also remember he is a teenager and trying to figure out how to seperate and be himself but you need to keep te lines of communication open. He will protest but ask him to hear you out.

Answer 19

Then leave him alone he's probably jerkin the meat leave him alone geez do you guys invite him to do anything with you guys or are you just as pre-occupied as he is.