I discovered yesterday that my 16 year old daughter has been smoking for a year after I found cigarettes in her room. Instead of trying to hide the fact that she was smoking, she totally owned up to it, told me that her boyfriend buys them for her (because she's not old enough) and when I came down stairs this morning she was happily puffing away at the breakfast table. When I asked her to put her cigarette out she refused and said that now I know, she should be allowed to smoke inside. She tried to pull the it's better that I'm smoking at home line, than out doing stuff that I don't know about, but I'm not buying it.
As much as I think smoking is a disgusting habit and I'm very disappointed in my daughter, I can't physically make her quit. But I think I have every right to refuse that she smokes in the house, particularly as no one else in the family smokes and that her younger brother has asthma.
Do you think that I'm right in not letting her smoke inside? Or is she right in saying that it is better that she smokes at home, instead of being off somewhere else doing even worse stuff that I won't know about? I think that she could at least smoke in the garden.
Also would you punish your child if you found out they had been smoking since they were 15? If so, what do you think is a suitable punishment? Or is it punishment enough that she is choosing to kill herself slowly, by puffing away on those cancer sticks?
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