My 16 year old mate wants to get married...?

Question

No, not to me. My mate left school earlier this year and he went to TAFE. Yeah this was all fine, about five weeks later my friend, who is also friends with my mate, tells me that my mate is a father, and that the mother has no intention of getting rid of the baby! When I called my mate and asked him about it, he was saying something about his girl friend's sister talking about his girl friend wanting to get married! I said that that could just be that she was trying to scare him, until he said that his girl friend had been talking about it as well. I asked him how old his girl friend is. He said that she is 18. I told him not to get married, because it wouldn't last. He doesn't believe me and is now thinking about it seriously! It is really scaring me because he is only 16 and he has his whole life (which has been shortened by smoking and drinking) ahead of him! I think hos girl friend may hold him to marrying her because of the baby! She is only about 2-3 weeks pregnant, they went to the doctor about it and the doctor said she is. Please...is it ok for me to worry. If so, what can I do, he never paid attention to the rules and now I think he's really throwing his life away! I don't want to tell anyone, because he got so annoyed about my friend telling a whole load of people about it. No one else knows that he's thinking about getting married. But I am just so torn up, I want to do some thing, because I know it won't last with this girl, but I don't know how to tell him without him getting pissed off at me! He's already asking me if he'll make a good father...HELP!!!

Answer 1

noooooooooooo tooo young

Answer 2

It is his choice. However, just because his girlfriend is having a baby, does not mean he has to marry her, all he has to do is pay child support( after a paternity test). Just be a friend for him, do not put pressure on him one way or another, be someone he can talk to openly and honestly

Answer 3

Honey, I am sorry, but the only advice I can give you is to just stand back and be a friend, I know it hurts to see someone you care about go through troubled times, but they created this on their own, and remember, it takes two to tango.

Just be a friend, there is nothing you can do, just offer your friendship and support and do not try to get involved.

If too many people have their hand in the fire at once, what a mess and what confusion it will cause!!!!!! And many will get burned.

Just be a friend, and concentrate on your own life, life is too short to be the "wonder friend" that you want to be and a "hero" to your friend a her life.

Why don't you just be a friend, and  be a "hero" to you and your life!!!

Your friend will know when to come to you for help, if she doesn't already.

She created this, not you, she has to fix this not you, it is her life, not yours, life your life, do not live hers.

Answer 4

It will more than likely be up to his parents. In most states you have to be at least 18 to 21 before you can get married unless your parents sign a consent form. It depends on the state. Other than that there is nothing you can do. Good Luck.

Answer 5

i didnt even read you describtion and i can answer you. NO NO NO NO NOOOOOOOOOO. it is TOOOOOOOOOO Earlyyyyyyyyyy.

personal opinion. and i think im right.