My 17 yr old daughter has had a boyfriend for 2 yrs now...i think she is maybe cheating on him or at least?

Question

talking and hanging out some with another guy...............so....should i talk to her about how cheating is wrong...OR......should i let her be a teen and let her figure things out for herself.......i have often told her she shouldnt tie herself down at such a young age and enjoy her friends more because her and the BF were joined at the hip....but i didnt want her to cheat on him!

Answer 1

well you should talk to her and let her know that she shouldn't or just simply tell her that it is wrong to do it and to let her think about her boyfriend and how he would feel if this kept goin on cuz it won't upset just you as well.

letting her do this by herself might not help cuz she probably won't even care and think about how much it'll ruin and affect the relationship and those around her. i would think that you should talk to her about it if it's bothering you this much.

Answer 2

Talk to her about it. Warn her of how her cheating could ruin her relationship, her reputation, and her spirits as she will feel bad after she does it.

Answer 3

Okay i am actully 17yrs old.

I think you should sit her down and tell how you feel.

and how cheating is wrong.

But if she wont listen then let her find out for herself how hard it is.

Answer 4

I'm a teen.

I think that that other guy might be a really good guy friend of hers that she can talk about anything too, or he might be a g*y guy friend.

Let her figure it out.  

Answer 5

I absolutely think that you should talk to her about this.. I'm sure at 17 she already knows that is wrong but maybe she cant see the consequences of it> ask her how she would feel if he was doing this to her and let her know that the guy she is talking to may be her next boyfriend and she doesn't want him to distrust her in the future thinking she will do the same to him as she is with the boyfriend she has now. Even if its just a platonic or maybe even a little flirtatious starting to happen,,,let her know that people judge her by how she carries herself and treats others.

I'm glad that you told her you didn't want her to tie her self to only one guy> she's a teen and now is the best times for her,( God I wish I was that age again )> lol > you too?

If I was in this situation,,,I would tell her to be truthful_ not only to herself but also with the boyfriend. > ask her if she would like her current BF acting or doing what she is doing and that should give you your answer as to what is going on ?

Answer 6

High school relationships will fluctuate drastically depending on the persons involved. There's no really STRAIGHT answer to this, but your best bet is to let it be. They'll figure it out; just be there for her.

Answer 7

I think you have the right idea to talk to her. Don't make accusations, but let her know your thoughts and why cheating is wrong. Perhaps you have a story of being cheated on and how awful it felt, or a friend that it happened to?  Tell her that if she ever thought about cheating, it is better to end her current relationship before beginning another one! She will feel much better about herself if she doesn't string one person along, while being with another at the same time. If she admits to your fear and tells you that she is cheating or talking to another person, try asking her why and see if you guys can get to the root of the problem. Perhaps that will make her end her current relationship or realize what a mistake she is making! Honesty is the best policy. Just being there for her will be a great help! Good luck :)