My 18 and 24 year old stepchildren & 3 yr old and 9 month old grandsons are living w/us?

Question

I've only been married since March after being single for 12 years. My husband's kids, 18 & 25, are now living with us. The 25 year old has the 2 sons. He and his wife, who got married in a double ceremony with us, are already separated so the 2 boys are living with us. Neither of the two stepchildren work so they now live with us. They are both LAZY! I don't want to be here anymore but I have nowhere to go. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Save up and get out, you were single for 12 years you can handle more single time.  

Answer 2

The last time I checked the vows were "For better or for worse". Instead of leaving your husband tell the worthless kids to get out. Do you take marriage so lightly that at the first difficulty you just leave? You had to know what you were getting into, or maybe you just rushed into it without thinking it through. My advice is to talk to your husband about how you feel and then tell the kids they have a month to find someplace else to live.

Answer 3

Tell your husband "We need to talk". Make sure it's just you and him. Tell him how you feel, but not in a way that makes him feel on the defensive. No accusations. Just tell him how you feel. You're married. You should work together on this. They may be his kids, but you bought the whole package, when you married him. And marriage makes you a team. Talk to him, openly, honestly. If you love him, you'll want to work this out. And, if he loves you, so will he.

Answer 4

I'd suggest writing to Dr. Phil or at least checking his website www.drphil.com

Otherwise, I believe you need to talk to your husband about how you are feeling. If he loves you he will be patient enough to listen. But before you do, *you* need to figure out what exactly *you* want. Take the time to think about it and then approach him about it. If that is successful you and he and provide the new plan to the family in a united front (that's much better than you talking directly to the children without the known support of your husband).