My 19 year old son doesn't listen to me, how can I get through to him?

Question

He isolates himself in his room, sitting on the computer, playing games and god knows what else. Whenever I invite him to go out and do something, he irritatedly says, "No, I'm good." Whenever I ask him how his day was, what he's up to, or what he's doing, he cops an attitude. I believe he's a good person, but I'm worried that he has no direction in life. I really just want to have a better relationship with him, but he makes this impossible. He's an adult now and I don't hesitate to treat him like one. Adults, how do you get through to your kids? And young people, any insight on what is going through his mind?

Thanks in advance,

Andrew

Answer 1

Well I am in my early twenties, and my first question was, "Why is your 19 year old son still at home?"  Whenever I am at home I have to respect my parents and listen to their rules.  I moved out for university, but it also gave me the options to have my own rules for myself.  If your son doesn't want to listen to you, or treat you with respect, you should send him on his way.  Honestly, he will probably develop much more respect for you and all you do when he has to make it on his own.

Answer 2

Just let him know you are there, if he wants to talk.  Just step back and wait.  He will have to make his own mistakes.  If he confides in you just listen and keep your advice to a minimum.  Just be to the point.  Maybe invite him to go out and do things.  Do you think he might be depressed?

Good Luck

Answer 3

im the same way with my parents cuz i just dont like when my parents ask about stuff in my life its a tough one. i no my parents cant figure me out. sorry bud hes just becoming more independent it dont necessarily mean hes doin nething bad

Answer 4

He probably hates you...

Either that or he thinks your treating him like a baby...

He doesn't wanna go out because he doesn't wanna hang out with his "mommy"

Did you ever accuse him of doing drugs? If so then when you ask him about his day or what he's up to he probably thinks that your accusing him of something he's not doin.

Leave him alone!!!!!!

Answer 5

Does he isolate himself from everyone, including friends and other family members?  If so, his situation sort of sounds like depression.  

Answer 6

Does he have any friends?  Maybe discuss his actions with their parents, and compare notes.  Maybe find a common ground that you are both interested in?  Last resort, pull the rug out from under him, and bring him down a notch or two.  (no more free ride!)

Answer 7

for 1 he doesn't want hang out with his mommy

2 he's 19 leave him alone

3 make him pay rent so he will need a job and get out of the house

4 did u drop the college ball um that'll get him the  h**l out

5 kick himout the house

6 finally he's a person, not a pet, he doesn't want to play with u

Leve him the f alone!!!!!!!!