My 1st grader ......?

Question

Ok so my son was only 4 when he started k-garden but he met the cut off for turning 5 so he was young they passed him on to the 1st grade (5 when he started) he was the youngest in the class personally i think he should have been held back in k-garden so now in turn he did not do well in 1st grade so he is repeating it no prob to me really he is young so here is my problem we have never been told YES he has adhd or add he has serious focus problems and to me seems not to care that he doesn't get his work done he also is lying telling the teacher he doesn't want to do his work and cannot seem to keep his hands to himself and when we talk to him he seems like he gets this blank stare like he doesn't care what were saying. We take away privileges when he doesn't behave but it doesn't seem to matter. I know he knows right from wrong but it is as if he doesn't get it for some reason that he is doing something wrong. Anyone else have this or any suggestions? I know he is still young but it worries me just a little. Thanks

Answer 1

o this same thing happened to my sister. she is 10 now but its been happening over the last few years or so we got the tests done on her. but they said she doesnt have adhd. she would tell my mom her homework was finished and lye my mom found out when her teachers called. but they put her in special learning classes like resource rooms and she is doing much better.

Answer 2

What does he like to do while he at home?

for example-he like to watch cartoon and eat candy

Here what you do:

1: Tell him that if he don't do his work in school, you'll won't let him watch TV.

2. If that doesn't work, Tell him if he do his work in school, you'll going to buy him a candy or ice cream.

That always work for me.

Answer 3

as a last resort, try bribing him....say that if he behaves and does well...he can get a ds lite or something...they're about $115. and then continue to give him games  or accesories for the ds if he continues to do well....and if he does not do well or if he misbehaves then take away the ds lite...but use this as a last resort

Answer 4

Please don't let anyone push ADHD on you.  It gets used to describe boys being boys quite often because teachers aren't equipped to deal with the fact that boys (and girls for that matter) need to be more physically busy than school allows.  My boys are all very bright intellectually, but my oldest had difficulty with the tediousness of school in general and they were always pushing for me to get him diagnosed.  We have since started homeschooling him (he is gifted in addition to being "boyish" so his difficulties were compounded) and things are going much better.  You son may not care if his work is getting done--if he doesn't see a reason for it, he could just check out because it doesn't interest him.  If your primary concern is behavior, what worked well for us while our son was still in public school was to talk to his teacher about which area he most had difficulty focusing in.  We started a "star" system with him where the teacher would give him a star for accomplishing his task well, and when he reached 5 stars he got an ice cream cone from Baskin Robbins.  It really helped him because he then had motivation.  Good luck--boys in the classroom are already in a difficult spot, and with your son being so young as well it's an added factor.  He'll grow, but he needs your support more than anything.