My 2 1/2 year old whines constantly?

Question

I believe my situation is a bit different from other parents of whiners...

My 2 1/2 year old has never uttered more than 10 words...total. He has his older brother to do all his talking...in a baby voice..no less.

This 2 1/2 year old kid, walks around, refusing to talk, whining, crying, hollering and throwing himself into the floor to throw a fit. He's never hardly talked, and this isn't any "Whining phase". He's done this for 2 years now. He's been a whiner since around 6 months and hasn't stopped. Everything he wants he just stands there and whines and you have to guess. Even when you've done everything you can do for him, it still isn't enough, he whines. I've had my fill of whining and crying. Recently I moved him into a toddler bed from his crib hoping that going ahead and pushing him thru some "milestones" such as self feeding (which he is doing now) and sleeping in a toddler bed may help. It doesn't. He may even be whinier. ....More details below

Answer 1

My goodness, who is in control you or him. You need to be very firm with him and ignore him when he whines he is only looking for attention and you are giving it to him. You are the adult not him.

Answer 2

Oh, I'm so sorry.

Have you had his pediatrician or your school system evaluate him?  Since he has a delay with reaching some of those milestones you mentioned, the school system may rule him eligible for an intervention-type preschool.  Some children with speech delays do really well with these little image books, I forget the name, but they're small laminated pics of things like crackers, juice, bathtub, hurt, etc.   The non-verbal child can bring you the card for, say, crackers, and since they're being clear, everyone feels less stress.

Sign language might also help a lot.  If you learned 20 or so signs for the most common things that come up, you can make that sign every time you hand over the item.  A lot of kids with speech delays get very excited at being able to communicate finally, and are more enthusiastic than you might imagine.

I know you said that he would go all day without eating if you waited for him to say "eat," so what about setting out your 3 daily meals, and a couple of snacks, at whatever time you choose.  Bring him to the table where he can either eat or not.  As long as he's being offered meals, he won't starve without the whine-to-snack option.  

That's just what I would try.  Keep your chin up.

Answer 3

I would guess that he's whining because he doesn't know how else to communicate.  I'd recommend getting him in a program where someone can work with him on communicating.  And at home, encourage him to talk for himself, and have big brother keep quiet.

Answer 4

Sometimes when shopping a child wines because they are bored.

Before you go have him pick one toy out to take with him. you could always make a game out of it.

When he is in the home and he dose it put him in a corner till he can speak what he needs. you need to let your other son know that he needs to speak for himself and not his brother.

if he keeps screaming in the stores in the car put him in the seat and dont have anything on in the car till he calms down than talk to him about what he did wrong.

you want to snap this in the butt or he is going to keep doing it.

when he dose it dont give in. send him to the corner till he can calm down and use his words.

Also he may be doing this because he cant hear. So you may want to get his hearing checks out and vision.

Answer 5

I have a three year old that did this when he was two... eventually I took him the pediatrition and had him looked at. He had horrible inner ear infections but never showed any signs like a fever or anything.... have him checked over, it may be something medical causing this.

Answer 6

Boy you KNOW you are going to have anything you want as you get older when you RULE your weak willed mom at the ripe old age of 2 1/2!

Be  a parent.Spank his butt and tell him no, if he throws a fit, spank his butt again , he WILL learn the meaning of words this way.

Next spend time READING to him and talking to him.

Just guessing from past experiences, but most kids that age if all they can do is grunt and whine is  the victim of  1 of 2 problems or a combination of the 2.

The 1st is that the child is  mildly retarded.

2. the mother lets the TV baby sit 24-7 or anyone else while she pursues her b/f or other interest and doesn't spend the time it takes to teach her kids much of anything.