My 2 year old daughter wont go to the loo!!?

Question

She is still in nappies but knows when she wants to wee, we have no problems there. When she needs to open her bowels, she wont!!!! she can hold it for upto four days. I have geven her lactulose, she drinks loads of water, has loads of fruit and fibre. She gets very distressed if she needs to go and tries really hard to hold it in. What can I do?? Any advice?

Answer 1

bribe her with a treat

Answer 2

Sounds as if she doesn't want to do it in her nappy and sit in it - can't say I blame her. Have you tried just putting her in big girl knickers and making sure the potty's handy? Try her with one of those training seats on the proper loo? It's all we had to do to get my girl house-trained (boys are definitely more haphazard LOL). It does seem to help if you let them in there with you when you go, too (I did, but the ex never would - would have been much easier for him to teach sprog1 to pee standing up!)

I really don't think you need to rush her to a doctor; at most, have a word with the HV to reassure you  she's normal.

Answer 3

Do you think shes ready to use the toilet or a potty - just a thought - my sons daughter was the same and they popped her on the toilet, after a few days she was happy to go on the loo for number two !!

Answer 4

Take her to the Doctor before this becomes a bigger issue. There are specialists out there who have met this problem before. Unqualified people can give advice which is at best confusing & at worst dangerous. Don't wait!!

We have friends whose son was just the same.

Answer 5

I have the same problem with my three years old... and it is a nightmare! (however, mine wears knickers now.....). I went to see the Health visitor who advise me not to pressure her and that it will come in due time. Apparently it can be quiet distressful for toddlers to realise that they have something "dirty" coming out of them. I have now been very patient I think... a good few months, and I am definitively considering taking her to the doc for reassurance. Unfortunately I don't think that there is much he can do... patience is a virtue!

Answer 6

bribe her with something she loves. for instance, candy?? that's what my mom did with all four of us kids