My 2 year old has been acting out since my youngest was born?

Question

my toddler has gone as far as hitting her baby sis when she is mad iv had biting issues as well we have tried putting her in time out but she runs away and its not that we had any problems before its gotten to the point where we have to put her in her crib to get her to stay in a timeout my pediatrician says this is actually making it worse because she just screams as loud as she can until i finally take her out if i don't she will literally scream for 2 hours if i allow her 2 I'm lost on what to and things are only getting worse what should i do?

Answer 1

i would make a special box of unique toys for her.  when she's behaving or your have to feed the baby, give her the box.  also, if you allow TV in your home.  take away all TV unless she starts to behave.  

at 2 years old, you can start giving timeouts.  the book 1..2..3 Magic was a lifesavor in my household.  i have a 4, 2 and 1 year old. there's lots of fighting and crazy behavior in my home.  this book is relatively inexpensive and a very quick read.

the premise of the book is counting to 3.  if they don't behave, then you set a timer for timeouts and giving 1 minute per year of age.  my 2 year old knows how to set the timer, sit on the timeout chair and turn the timer off when it's finished. and my 2 year old is a BOY!  most boys mature slower, but this concept is so simple that he even gets it.

Answer 2

shes most likely acting out because she feels like the baby is getting more attention then she is. Obviously she is used to being the only one around and getting all the love. Youre punishing her for no reason. She needs to be reassured that you still love her and you should be giving equal attention to her and the baby. I know that its hard but it is one of the responsibilities we take on when we decide to have another child. Play with her, interact with her, color pictures, play playdo, go to the park. Do fun things with her like you used to before the baby came. She feels left out and a child shouldnt be punished for trying to express her feelings the only way she knows how. Shes fighting desperately for some of your attention and children tend to think bad attention is better than no attention. They dont usually resort to this unless its absolutely necessary.  

Answer 3

My second son was born when my first born turend 19 months old and it was bad~

HE WOULD GO as far as  hitting the baby bitting him and even trying to choke him,... it was real bad.. I could not leave them in the samne room together cause i was afrad of Isaiah really hurting him,..... I had no idea of what to do ....... I talked to him, put him in time out and nothing worked until i started letting him " help" me with the baby.. i would let him act like he was helping him put on the babys diaper , I let him "help" me wash the baby and even feeding him, but most of all i would make sure that I told isaiah that i loved him and the baby the same.. I told him the reason why i had to pay more attention to the new baby was because the baby could not do anything at all for himself... OVER TME IT HELPED!!!!

it took a little time but in the end isaiah was calling the baby his LOL

it was so cute, not that they are older they are always sided by side and he is always telling his little brother how much he loves him.... \

It will tAKE TIME but keep doing that and i am sure they will get along in no time....

GOOD LUCK