My 2 year old hits and scratches all other little kids he meets. how do i get him to stop?

Question

My 2 year old hits and scratches all other little kids he meets. how do i get him to stop?

Answer 1

You know, he may not realize that it hurts.. I watched a little girl once (she was 4) and she used to kick us hard all the time, one day her mom kicked her right back....not hard enough to leave a mark, or really hurt...the little girl looked up and said ouch...her mom looked at her and said, it hurts huh? After that she never kicked anyone again...

Now I am not saying hit your child...but talk to him, put him in a time out and explain why he shouldn't hit...tell him it hurts other people....

Answer 2

Give him a spanking every time he does it, this will teach him not to scratch other people.  Also make sure you explain to him why you spanked him

Answer 3

not so sure about spamkinghim but maybe just telling him, " no that is not ok and we kep our hands to ourselves!' Also make him express that he is sorry to the other child. It is so typicalat his age especially as a boy notthat it is ok. A smack on the hand may be more of a breakthrough to him tahn a full lfedge spanking. He will associate the pain of it with such behavior and see that when you hurt others it hurts him too and will hopefully remeber it when he goes in for the smack next time. When you do smackhis hand tell him "see you don't like it when someone hits you do you?' But a full spanking may not getthrough to him especially without expalnation, you want him to understand consequence on the level of what he is doing and a butt whoping may be a bit excessive for a kiddie scratch or slap, now if he is being much more aggressive tahn that yes a spanking may be needed but always with an expalanation. If we appear outof control or show that hitting is the way you do things thatis what they will think. Also remove him from the child after he has expressed he is sorry and let him know they won't play again until he can be nice and if he does it again after going back, remove him from the situation for the day.

He will hopefully outgrow this, as he learns to express himself more with words this will cease. Remind him that tell him we use our words.

Good Luck

JAT

Answer 4

I agree with the first answer - I would give him a jolly good smack and let him know that such behaviour is unacceptable.Nip it in the bud now or he will have problems at school later on.

Answer 5

I would immediately remove him from those children and get out of there. If at the park, pick him up...let him know why, tell him it is wrong...and take him home. Try to get the point across that if he wants to play with other children he can't be hurting them. Are there actions, or a behavior that you can see in this child right before it happens? If so, I would step in and grab him out of therebefore it happens...and give a little lecture about how to behave. Prior to interractions with children, same lecture about how to treat others, and what the consequences will be if it isn't followed. Is he in day care or something like that where he is exposed to seeing another child act this way? Or is another child treating him like this? IF so...see about changing that environment for him. I never had this problem...but I hope something I said helps a little...good luck! It is a phase that will pass!

I would try to find another way other than spanking though. I would think it hard for a 2 year old to understand you are telling him not to hurt others by hurting his toosh with a few swats.

Answer 6

maybe he's not ready for the socialization that you are expecting him to do at his age.  keep him in very small groups with less stimulation and only one child.  remove him from the situation promptly when he hurts another child.  that is your cue to leave.  your son may need a nap, food, attention, or alone time.

Answer 7

Don't let him be alone with other kids until you know that he knows how to be nice.  And, by alone, I mean - sitting there with the other child, without you right there next to him, talking to him (not someone else) & playing along with them.  

While you're sitting there with him, playing, teach him how to be nice.  Talk to him about it.  Praise him.  Use words to describe feelings - "This is fun playing with Johnny.  He's our friend.  We don't hurt our friends.  I would feel bad if someone hurt you or me or Johnny."  

If he's hitting because he doesn't know how to share - teach him how.  Sitting there right beside him.  Talk to him.  Say "I really want those blocks that Johnny's playing with.  If I was playing with them & someone wanted them, I wouldn't want them to just take them from me.  I think I'll ask Johnny if I can play with the blocks."  When Johnny says 'No', talk about how that feels, but why you need to respect Johnny, since you would want Johnny to respect you if the situation was the other way around.  Talk  about what you're going to do with those feelings of disappointment.  Talk about wanting to hit or take them away & why that's wrong.  Then, talk out loud about deciding to wait for your turn, offer a toy trade with Johnny, all the different solutions to that problem.

Yes, you can talk to a 2 year old.

Answer 8

spank his *** until he associates that him hurting others wont be tolerated.and please dont fire back with the double standard argument,its really really old and pretty weak."talking" children out of certain behaviors obviously doesnt work,a good old *** warming will do the trick,it did for me when I was a kid.

Answer 9

This is common with a lot of young toddlers. Simply tell him that it is not nice to hit and scratch other children. Tell him that every time he hits and scratches other boys and girls, that he will be punished and put in 'time-out,' or your own form of punishment. Tell him that every time he is a 'good boy' that he will be rewarded.

Ideas for punishment:

Time out

No dessert

Going to bed early

Take a toy or two away

Take telivision priveleges away

Ideas for rewards:

Candy

Buy him a new toy

Extra dessert

Go to bed later

Read him a story

Let him watch cartoons

Also, tell him that if he does that, that no other boys and girls will like him and that he won't have anyone to play with.

Good luck and God bless you and your family.

Hope I helped. :)

Answer 10

Smack his hands and tell him "NO, do not do this!"