My 2 year old is not talking hardly at all?

Question

my 2 yr old does not talk very much at all. he can say momma...baa baa...dada sometimes. he kinda speaks in his own language. which is very adorable but i have no clue what he is trying to tell me. he does everything else normal...but he is very violent ,,,,like he throws things if he does not get what he wants....and loves to hit. he even hits himself. he loves to watch tv and stay in his own world. he holds his ears alot. i dont know why.and he does not like change at all. i was just wondering if anyone else has the same problems or has been through it before. i love my baby and i hope everything is going to be ok.

Answer 1

You just described my baby cousin hes about 18 months he don't say nothing not mama not Dada but he screams to get what he wants and he understand what I'm saying.

the fact that he might be that way is he gets everything he wants by yelling so i guess he figures all he needs to do is that if hes yelling for a cup go over with him and say cup a couple of times then give it to him and when he screams just say in a loud voice NO it always works with my baby cousin and that's what my cousin does all day is watch TV and his fave is noggin and if you change the channel he will get a heartache and he loves music videos only certain mostly rap songs funny ain't it

But don't worry I guess they all learn in the different pace

kids these days are very spoiled arent they lol

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Answer 2

I am a coordinator of a child care centre licenced for children aged 2-5, as well as a parent of three children myself. (8, 4 and 19 months) All children develop at different rates, but for you to post a question like this one, raises to me that you are concerned about your child's language development, as well as some behavioural issues.  (which is a great and brave thing to acknowledge) I would strongly suggest to seek professional opinion from your pediatrician, child health professional or if using child care, ask to see observations relating to your child's development, and discuss those observations with your child's carer.  If not using childcare, you may want to consider it, as there will be children andstaff that he can model language from, and staff can keep those written observations for you and certainly in my centre, are able to seek Inclusion Support Agencies (with your permission)There are some autistic traits described by yourself, holding ears, staying in front of the TV and "being in his own world".   You may like to notice if your child shows any concern or empathy if you were to "pretend cry" as if you had been hurt. Many (but not all) Autistic children will not show any emtion towrds this type of reaction, and may continue just doing what they are doing.But I'm no Doctor and would hate to worry you unnecessarily. However there are also very typical 2 year old development traits also.  If children have the opportunity to stay in front of the TV for long periods of time they will.  May I suggest to limit the TV viewing to only 1/2 hour of TV with you there to interact with him.  Talk about what you see, do the actions, dance around, become involved.  Other tips for language development is to put together a small book of photos of loved ones with written text underneath. Very young children react better to photos rather than drawn pictures.   But also add favourite things like ball, bike, park, drink/cup, bed, everyday things in his life.  Read this together pointing each one as you say the word.  Encourage him to repeat the word.  As he gets used to it, ask him to find "Mum" (don't forget to add his photo too)  Then as his attempts get better, you can ask him Who/what is this? This may also help with any frustration he may be feeling with his lack of communication.  Some of this frustration is very typical for a toddler, (whcih is why some tantrums occur).  You could also learn some basic sign language to accompany well used words, but say them as you sign them to reinforce the language and communication.  Remeber to praise all efforts.  (Songs and finger rhymes are also great, books with repitition and rhyme, and life experiences)Violent acts or physical behaviour can also be a means of gaining attention for a toddler, (however discuss with your health professional) and if he has had success in gaining attention before from this method, then he's had a win and will do it again, because it is what he knows has worked.  If he is self harming, let him know calmly that he needs to stop (holdiing up your hand as a visual as well), Give lots of "i" messages "I don't like to see you sad, It makes Mummy sad when you hit your head." Remove him from immediate danger and away from potential dangerous items.  My suggestion is to spend quality time, be very clear on boundries and limits.  Give him a choice before you ask if he wants to do something, so that he doesn't have the option of telling you "no". You're aiming for a win;win. Eg: would you like to do a puzzle or read a book with Mummy before you go to bed?  (Be sure to make the choices something that has "an end" a book, puzzle,  rather than openended experiences which can drag on for as long as the child wants so not a tower but rather a tower of 10 blocks, threading of 5 beads rather than make a necklace. He feels great becasue he has made a choice as has some "power" in his life, and you have had a win becasue either choice - he's going to bed when that choice is complete. If he refuses to make a choice, let him know that you will make it for him if he wont.  Then stick to the choice. It takes practice to offer the choices as the first "request', but after a while you will find it flows naturally for you. If you say "are you ready for  bed now?, he is likey to say no, and then you have nowhere to go.  Be clear with consequences, and please be assured that it is ok to say no to your child.  If you have already said "no you can't have a lollie at the checkout" then even if there is screaming and tears, it is quite clear that there will be no reward for tantrums, and that you have already said no.  He will soon learn that you are consistnat with your guidelines, and that tantrums will not be tollerated ore rewarded.  But be sure to praise when behaviour is great.  ie "well done for not asking for a lollie today, lets go home know and we can unpack all of these groceries together".  (Quality time, where lots of language can happen "oranges 1,2,3,4,5 oranges for our fruit bowl, how many bananas? - lets count. )  Well I'm sorry if I've rambled, but children is something I am very passionate about, and feel that that parents needs are just as important as the child's.  Seek medical advice if you are unsure about any aspect of your child's development, after all you know him the best, and be consistant with your guidelines and consequences, deal with behaviour as it happens (not when Daddy comes home), and enjoy your time with your children, they really do grow way too quickly.  Good luck with all of your concerns.

Answer 3

My little cousin didn't really start talking until she was almost 3-4, and she's perfectly fine.

If you're really concerned, maybe talk with the pediatrician next time you see him/her.

Answer 4

easter seals.....birth to 3 program...free and they send a speech therapist to your home...its great and it helped my daughter alot.

Answer 5

Every child has a unique personality and they will grow in time. talking is a come and go thing, they will talk when they are ready.

As for some of the things you have mentioned, like violent behavior some kids just are like that. It is something you have to teach them to work out.

Tho I would mention it all to a pedeatrician, with your concern. I don't want you to worry because this is doubtful but a child who likes to be by himself, doesn't talk much and has violent fits on himself can also be autisim.

I doubt it, sounds like a normal 2 yr old being a kid but it is always good to find out, sooner rather then later.

Answer 6

Ask the doctor about it.  It may be autism or just a phase.