My 2 year old son has picked up some profanity at daycare, How do I make him stop? ?

Question

My 2 year old son has been saying cuss words a lot lately from daycare, he will call me, my mom, my sister or people around him words like f***er, S**t head, or he will say words like d@mn, or S**t. It's very embarrassing to me we have done everything we know of to try and make him stop and nothing is working. I don't even want to carry him to church because I am so afraid he will say one of those words. And how I know he's picking it up from daycare is because we don't cuss around him and when you ask him where he heard that word from he will tell you, and he told us the name of the boy who tells him to say those words, In a way i feel like I am a bad mother and I am pretty sure that all the people that hear him say those words think so to, What do I do? I feel so helpless and I feel as though I have failed as a parent. PLEASE HELP!!!

Answer 1

Don't feel bad. We've all been there.  No one who has kids would think you are a bad mom because your child cusses- so don't worry about it in that way.

You need to tell your daycare provider what is going on so she can keep an eye on the situation. Also, don't make a big deal out of it with your son. The bigger production you make out of it, the more fun using those words becomes. If he says a bad word, sit him down, look him straight in the eye, and say something like, "That is not a nice word. It can hurt people's feelings, and nice people don't say things like that." Keep modeling good behavior and proper speech and let him know that you disapprove of certain words when he uses them.

PLEASE don't use hot sauce- he's too young for that kind of punishment.

Answer 2

we used hot sauce with my daughter. when she cursed she got a dab of hot sauce on her tounge. took two times, then she rarely if ever, cussed again. it got to the point where she loved telling everyone else to use hotsauce whenever she heard them say a bad word. also, try using positive enforcement. tell him he makes you want to cry when he calls you bad names, but you like it soo much when hes a nice boy. if you have to, use time out. i know someone mentioned spanking, but im not for it. time out is much more effective. spanking last a few seconds, time out is a drawn out thing, and kids hate not being able to move. good luck.  

Answer 3

Kids will continue to say the words if they realize they get a reaction.I agree telling him no and explain its a bad word.I do not agree with popping him in the mouth or spanking.My 3 year olds in the same phase and when I realized telling him no wasn't working I ignored the behavior.When they see they are getting no reaction they have a tendency to stop the behavior and move on to something that will get you attention.This is just from my personal experince though.

Answer 4

Well first of all you are not a bad mother so do not say that, a bad mother would not post this question. I understand what you are going threw and its normal. There are some ways to make him stop. Every time you hear him say that word put a drop of hot sauce on his tonge, this will scare him. If he likes the sauce then this is not a good idea lol.

In that case you may want to try and pop him in the mouth and tell him NO. It may seem mean now but trust me it works...My mother did that to  me and still will to this day if i even say the words SUCKS in front of her. What ever you do, do not use soap, if your child goes back to school and says u put soap in his mouth there may be trouble,

Good luck with your propblem let me know how it goes.

*** Go to the class and tell the teacher what is going on***

Answer 5

Ok, so first off you need to go to the daycare and say something. You do need to try to wash his mouth out with soap, or hot sauce. You have done nothing wrong as a parent. Good luck.  

Answer 6

Obviously your son is getting this language from daycare, if you say you and your husband do not cuss around him.

Either other children are saying these words, or the daycare people are swearing to each other or at the kids.

Talk to the daycare.  If they don't remedy the situation, find another daycare.

Answer 7

My first step would be to have a word with the daycare centre carers that you are concerned about this - they can they be aware (if they aren't already) about the child who is saying these words and try to stop it..

When ever either of my children have used foul words we just explain that its a naughty word that we dont use.  We also found that they less reaction from us the better.  

At 2 it is very hard as they wont really understand why it is a bad word.  Maybe you could also try the naughty chair when they say it or take away a toy that is a favourite that they can get back when they stop saying them..

Good luck - I dont think that you are a bad mother and you def have not failed as a mother - children will pick up many bad habits from the outside environment (wait until they start school) - its just up to us as parents to keep them centred on what is acceptable and what isnt..

Answer 8

I know it sounds really harsh, but tell him that saying bad words is wrong, and if he says them out loud, he will get a spanking.  Spanking can be an effective displine tool, if you are careful about when it is used - only after 2 or three reminders that a given behaviour is bad, and that a spanking will be the result of continued disobedience.  It should never be used impulsively, or if you are angry/not in control of yourself.  

Answer 9

You didn't teach him those words.  You have done nothing wrong.  I would find out why the daycare is allowing the foul mouthed kid to stay - I'm sure other kids have picked up the words too.  I would think twice about taking him to that daycare until that kid has either been removed or is not cussing anymore.  Keep your child away from that language, and ignore it.  NO reaction to it what so ever.  When a child doesn't get the attention for saying these words, they will usually stop saying them.  Also, praise him for his "good" behavior and language.

Good luck and don't feel like you are a 'bad mother'.  You are showing that you care by being concerned about it.  

Answer 10

first off go to the daycare and tell them your concerns.  if they wont do anything about it...switch daycares because if he is picky up nasty language from it..then other things could be going on as well that you are unaware of.

second..the most effect thing i have found with my daughter is to sternly tell her that the words are no no words. if she continued saying them...time out. but the best thing of all is to do nothing if nothing else worked.believe it or not...the less reaction from you..the less fun the words are to say and eventually if not within a day or so..kids stop saying them.

dont be hard on yourself over something that is out of your control...especially words.