My 3 year old and her potty training issues? ?

Question

My daughter will be 4 in December. She is already old enough to know what its time to go and has no problems going number one in the potty however when she has to go number 2 she goes in her undies instead. I always ask her if she needs to go and take her but she just doesn't go number 2. I don't know what I am doing wrong or if this is normal. What can I do to help her become fully potty trained?

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

I had a HORRIBLE time p**p traning my daughter.  She did fine with peeing, but pooed in her underpants forever!  It was frustrating and messy.  If she wasn't doing that, she was holding it and constipating herself so bad that she would vomit.  We had to give her miralax (under dr. supervision) so she couldn't hold it.  Once we got her "rythym" under control, what finally worked was making her be naked.  She had a fit and fought it for about 15 minutes, but I just told her that until she learns to poo in the potty she can't wear pants or underpants.  Only a shirt or a dress with no bottoms.  After 5 months of holding poo, she literally pooped int he toilet 10minutes after this fit.  It wasn't done after that though, So, she wore dresses and we stayed home for about a week straight.  We couldn't even put a pullup on at naptime or bedtime because she'd hold it until then.  We gave her miralax, put her to nap with no bottoms, and didn't put a pullup on her at night until we were going to bed at 11:00pm or so.  She pooed on the floor in our house or outside about 2-3x (in 3-4 days) before she finally realized it wasn't worth it, and started pooping in the potty.  Since then she's had 0 accidents and doesn't need any miralax.  She is very proud of herself as well!

It was messy, but worth it.  I think the sensation she was afraid of was the poo actually "free-falling" from her bottom... and once she got used to that she figured she may as well let it fallinto the toilet so she could have a treat!

Good luck, I hope this helps!

Answer 2

well maybe you should punish her, like slapping her on the butt (not to hard) and next time she goes in her undies dont clean it up

Answer 3

It's definitely not an uncommon thing at this age. I'd make sure that the poopy isn't hurting her. Sometimes when it is harder, the little kids tend to hold it cause it hurts coming out. They will hold it until it just comes out in undies. I'd suggest maybe some raisins, grapes, apple, or apple juice. Also Let her come in when you are going #2 . Let her see you and maybe even struggle a bit so she sees that it is normal. When she does go on the potty, make sure and praise her so she feels good about the experience.

Answer 4

Well you should spend some time watching the signs of pooping and once you know then you can rush her to the potty.

I don't think punishing will help, unless she is doing it to make you upset.

2 things kids can and will try to control...

1) The Potty

2) Eating

Try doing a sticker chart and every time she goes she will get a sticker and when there is enough then she can get a small reward.

Talk to her about the other kids teasing her at school, and how she can get boo boos in her private areas from sitting in it.

Take her to her doctor and have them explain why if that doesn't work.Your doctor might have some suggestions for you as well.

If its a sensitive topic for her then she might just be afraid of something or embarrassed about it in general. Just remember she is only a child and she may just need more attention.She could be doing it for that alone.

Answer 5

tell her that her poopies are sad because they are stuck in her diaper... tell her they will be happy if they get to play together in a potty or the toilet... reward when she goes... get her big girls panties, she won't like the poopy feeling, don't change her for 10-15 extra minutes and then she will be trained in no time....