My 3 year old son always wants to sleep with me and my his dad, should we let him?

Question

when we put him in his bed he cries himself to sleep and when he lays down next to us he goes right to sleep

Answer 1

It is fine if you allow it very very sparingly. No more than once a month, if you do not want to create a habit. At his age, he needs (in order to have a healthy sleep pattern) to fall asleep on his own. Do not let him lay with you again until he stops the crying at night and is used to sleeping on his own. After that it is fine if it is every once in awhile.

Answer 2

Before I had kids I would've said no because it only causes issues. On the other hand now that I am a mom of two with another one on the way I say too just let him. They grow up so fast and the time flies by and before you know it they won't barely even talk to you. Maybe if your afraid of this happening to much you could just allow him to lay in your bed with you both for a while and then when lights out time to put him in his own bed. Or you could just allow him to do it on the weekends. Work something out with him and think of it from his 3 year old mind. When you don't allow him to it might make him feel unwanted or he just might not understand why. I don't think it's hurting anybody.

Answer 3

you need to trained him to self in her own bed little by little so he learned how sleep in his own and it is make easy for you and your husband. ofcourse in the first time you need to sacrifice in a few night.

Answer 4

ACK.... NO!!!  myself o and Tracey hit the nail on the head.  In our house, mom and dad's bed is just that..... NOT a communal bed.  Our daughter (she'll be 3 at the end of this month) will crawl in with us when she wakes up in the morning, but it's not to sleep, it's to snuggle and wake us up.  Otherwise, she goes to sleep in her own bed, with no fights, arguments or crying and she stays in her own bed until morning.  We all get a good nights sleep.  She has been in her own room since 5 days old.  I went back to the dr when she was 5 days old for a checkup and he asked where she was sleeping.... she was in a basonet right beside my side of the bed and I wasn't hardly sleeping.  He told us to get her out of our room right away, so we did, put her in her own room, and that's where she has been ever since.  probably the best piece of advice ever!!!

Answer 5

From experience, it's a hard habit to break. He should sleep in his own bed. So what if he cries? He eventually falls asleep, right?

Answer 6

NO..then he is going to want this every night. It is best to put your foot down and have him sleep in his own bed...if you be firm with him it won't be hard at all to get him to stay in his bed. The last thing parents want is a kid in bed between the 2 of them..

Answer 7

it is normal for your son to sleep beside you on his age right now.he feels secured in doing so,time will come as he gets older he will insist on sleeping alone.and when that time comes now it would be your turn to ask him to sleep beside you because you missed him.

Answer 8

No keep him out of your bed and into his own and if he crys himself to sleep that's what he does.  He has no business sleeping with you and your husband, this is also a great way for a kid to come between his parents relaltionship.  He stays in his bed.

Answer 9

I'm on the side of not allowing him.

My daughter is also 3 and she would just love to sleep with us all the time. She's been in her own bed and room since 8 months, and 99% of the time we all get a great nights sleep. Of course there are times that she will sleep with us, such as when she's sick.

The main reasons for not sharing are building her independence and pride in her own abilities and having a time and place everyday where my husband & I are together without the children.  

Answer 10

I agree with myself o, you definitely need to put a stop to that. My brother had to do the same thing with my nephew when he was around that age. Eventually he will get the idea and stop crying himself to sleep, you just have to be firm, and "consistent".