My 3 years old is so demanding?

Question

My 3 year old son is out of control!!!! He is aggressive and destructive. He throws tantrums when he doesnt get what he wants right away. I do time outs and taking things and even spanking but no matter what I do it dosent seem to matter. He is extremly hiper and I can barely take him in public. He has been this way for as long as I can remember. Any suggestions on alternate discipline would be great.

Answer 1

Ok first off calm him down by saying something like, "ok if you listen things will be much better!!!" Then say something like, "Ok why do you want this item?" When he gives him respose, say something like, "Ok maybe if you are REALLY good you can get this item at a later time!!!" If he doesn't aggree, say something like " Ok lets see how you act through the WHOLE store. By the time we we are done shopping, if you were REALLY good, you might can get the item, but no promises...ok?" Hope this helped!!!

Answer 2

do what my mom did and take him to a nut house lol j/p  and let them take care of him he probably just has anger managment and needs to see a counsselour they sometimes prescribe medication to help keep u calm cause i take meds for my anger it helped me out alot it really works.

Answer 3

So where is the consistency here?  And why are you hitting your child?  The tatrums are designed to gain attention, simply don't give him that attention.  Stop taking things away, it does no good, it only teaches him that if he fakes behaving long enough he will get them back.  Get a child gate and put it in the doorway of his bedroom.  When he has a melt down pick him up and put him in his room and walk away.  By hitting him you are only teaching him that it is okay to hit when he is frustrated or angry...

Answer 4

Reward systems for when he does something right. He needs positive reinforcement which can be difficult when it seems like all they do is something wrong :)

Something as simple as popsicles, stickers, small toys from the dollar store can be a big help. You have to create opportunities for him to do something right and reward him when he does. My son gets a little out of control when playing on his own but if I structure his play and sit him down with books, a puzzle, play doh, whatever, he's much more controlled.

Answer 5

I feel really bad for you!  My son is 2 1/2 & although he's not that bad he can be pretty bad at times, especially in public.  I find he's worse when he's got extra energy to burn. This might sound silly but maybe you could tire him out before you take him out.  E.g. go for a long walk first, play a game of soccer or just let him run around the backyard.  I don't think the spanking is a good idea though..you're just encouraging aggression.  Just stay firm with the time outs & punishments & after explain why he was punished & tell him that you love him but what he did was wrong, he's not bad, just what he did was bad.  Well, I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 6

I suggest a book called "incredible years" it has great advice even for the most difficult of children.  3 year olds are like that though testing every limit but the book actually goes into details about all of that and how to work towards correcting it.