My 3 yr old is a little monster!!!!?

Question

I feel like pulling my hair out or better yet running away and never coming back. (not really but the idea sure is appealing right now. My son is 3 yrs old and is a little terror and no I'm not exagerating. I cant go out in public ANYWHERE with him. When I do he screams bloody murder if he doesnt get something, he will hit and kick me in the cart, spit, tell me and other employees to shut up or just be plain gross talking about "pee and p**p". NO I DONT INDULGE HIM OR GIVE HIM HIS WAY WHEN HE ACTS LIKE THIS. That makes it even more fustrating because most kids learn when you ignore it and leave the store. At home its just as bad he will use chairs to climb on counters to get into food or spices (and dump them everywhere) he is horribly mean to his 5 yr old sister and is physically agressive with her and me., meltdown 24/7, etc. He has caused me to loose more friends than I can count because they cant stand to be around him and they dont want there kids around him either (not that I blame them) This makes me even more isolated along with the fact that no daycares will take him (kicked out of 6 other ones) forcing me to stay home withb him 24/7 while my husband works crazy hrs to compansate. I dont know what to do. We are very firm and consistant with discipline and use time out, taking away toys, and spanking as a last resort. Heck taking away toys doesnt even work because he doesnt like to play with toys he like to get into everything and destroy my house. I've taken him to doctors who feel he is severly ADHD. I dont know if he is or not but regardless of if he is he cant be treated untill 5 or 6 yrs old so at the moment that doesnt make a difference. I dont know what do do. I feel so hopeless doing this day in and day out and he wont change at all. I cant get a break form hubby because he works 24/7, friends have abandoned me because he is such a terror, and no family lives close. (dont even say get a babysitter. at 3 yrs old this kid already has a reputation in our small town) Help!!!!

Answer 1

Weather u don't let him get away with it or not

But when he doesn't do as he is told u have to ensure that there will be consequences if he does so!

Also when he does as he is told u have to praise him...

Make him feel great about it like " WOW what a good boy, ur sooo clever!"

In a fun and happy sounding voice!

Or if none of this works then maybe u should take him to the doctors!

He might have a disorder... like ADHD?

Which can be controlled by tablets its a chemical imblance or something or other!

Answer 2

call Nanny 911.

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Answer 3

Yikes!!!  I feel for you, I can hear in your words how very Desperate you are......BUT I will tell you it sounds as though his diet needs to be changed DRASTICALLY...he seems to be running on a constant Sugar High...he's out-of-control..I'm almost afraid to tell you to FORGET the useless time outs and WHIP his rear end like you mean it (but I don't WANT you too lose control with how frazzled you are..you can't back down nor let  a child with such a Strong-Will get the BEST of you......if he is severely ADHD he needs to be on Meds, not only for your sanity,, but for the Protection of his Sibling...You should take him to another Pediatrician and Talk about Medication.

Answer 4

who told you he can't be treated if he has add or adhd until he is 5 or 6 a doctor? I have a friend who's child as adhd and he is 4 and he is taking medicine. you should find out for sure so he can be treated

Answer 5

Take a look at this site and see if it helps:  www.MyParentClass.com.

I am a preschool teacher and I've had kids like that.  We ended up getting him a one on one mentor throughout the day.  Good luck.

Answer 6

Punish him SEVERELY. When he does this, spank him HARD 3 times (or so) and send him to his room. I don't normally say this (hardly ever), but honestly, I think you need to make him cry or hurt--he needs to see who's boss and get the picture, and get back to reality.

Answer 7

I am really sorry.  its tough to deal with a high needs child.  My 4 year old daughter is the same way.  We are unable to go anywhere because of her behavior.  When we HAVE to go somewhere I am usually in tears with frustration by the time we leave.

I would recommend asking your childs pediatrician if there are any child counselors who you could be referred to.  they can be very helpful in helping your child to find ways to behave as well as helping you to learn to parent a high needs child

Answer 8

I KNOW WHAT U ARE GOING THROUGH, ALTHOUGH IS 7 YEARS OLD, I STILL GO THROUGH IT. THE FIRST THING I DID WAS CUT BACK ON THE SUGAR, THAT HELPED OUT A LITTLE, BUT SHE IS STILL LIKE THAT IN PUBLIC, SHE HAS GOTTEN TO THE POINT TO WHERE SHE THROWS HERSELF ON THE FLOOR AT THE STORE AND YELLS, SHE HAS TO SEE A THERAPIST, I THINK SHE HAS SEVERE ADHD, BUT I'VE LEARNED THAT IF U DON'T PUNISH YOUR CHILD WHILE THEY ARE ACTING OUT, THEY WILL KEEP DOING THE SAME THING. I HATE TO ADMIT IT, BUT YES I CARRY A BELT WITH ME EVERYWHERE I GO AND IM NOT EMBARRASED TO USE IT ON HER. SOMETIMES A CHILD NEEDS TO PUT IN CHECK AND SHOWN WHO'S THE BOSS. ITS NOT A CRIME TO PUNISH YOUR CHILD. DO WHAT U HAVE TO DO.

Answer 9

spank, spank, spank. there will be yuppies telling you that spanking does no good, only teaches the child a vicious cycle. bull! when my middle child was 3-4, she was a total monster. a little evil ball of energy. no one would baby sit her because they couldn't handle her. three doctors wanted to put her on Ritalin and i wouldn't allow it. i made her mind. spanking did work, after a while she would stop and think..."if i try to throw this block of concrete through mom's windshield, she's gonna beat my ***!" seriously, i watched this happen. i couldn't even go shopping because of how she acted. i did march her out to the car and beat her *** and it worked. if you look back in history, children were always well behaved. all the amish kids by me are well behaved....why is this? they are disciplined.

btw, this daughter does have ADHD as well as myself. i listened as a kid...i knew better.

Answer 10

Oh honey, i feel for you.  Well even though your son can not be reated until he is five or six it doesn't mean that you can't read the advice on adhd or go to courses that talk about it.  Perhaps they can give you some advice and tell you if this is really what your son does have.  plus see if there are any chatrooms online for women with children with adhd, and see if there are any ladies in your area with the same problems who can advise you and perhaps even babysit as they will know how to handle children with adhd.

my couson was diagnosed with autism resently but they said he had adhd and he is now nine.