My 3 yr old whos been potty trained for over a year is now having accidents why?

Question

My 3 year old has been potty trained for over a year now before my youngest daughter was born. Now my youngest girl is a year and a half old and my 3 year old, for probably 2 months now is having several accidents in a day. Ide say probably 5 times a day. Its driving me crazy. Is this for attention? I figure if it was she would have started doing it before the baby was this old. Could she be having bladder problems? I need help cause I cant even take her in public anymore!!

Answer 1

Your thought that jealousy inspired your older daughter's behavior was almost certainly right.

I have toilet-trained 52 children (My claim to fame!), so from the depths of my experience, let me suggest a couple of things.

If your younger child has been walking well for at least 3 months, and has no disabilities, she is ready to be trained. (I have shared my method with many mothers who have also had phenomonal success with it.)

Say nothing to your older daughter about her "problem."  Simply put away (out of her reach, somewhere she is unaware of) ALL of her panties.  Start using diapers exclusively on her.  Do not talk to her about this--just do it.  Begin potty-training for your younger child.  My method excludes the presence of ANYONE else in the bathroom while the child is "in session."

When your older child starts asking questions, answer them honestly, but do not stop using the diapers until she asks for that privilege.  Start using them again when she has her 1st accident (it won't take long--kids have to test adults to see whether they really mean what they say.  --  My motto is say what you mean and mean what you say.--)  Use them for at least 2 weeks, night and day, no exceptions.  After the 2 weeks, ask her if she is ready to try again with the panties.  Then, same procedure:  1 accident, and it's diapers again.

If you have a particularly stubborn child, you may have to repeat this cycle several times; should this happen, add a week to the diaper days after each "accident."

I am loath to use the word accident, as what your child is doing to you is no accident.  She is fighting you for control.  Give up now, and you will have a prize-winning trouble-maker on your hands before she hits her teens.

JUST IN CASE your child genuinely has a medical problem, consider taking her to a peditrician following the 2nd cycle of "having accidents."  If the doctor finds no physical cause for your child's behavior, continue the program until it has been settled who is in control.

Meanwhile, there is more to say about the training of your younger child.  If you are interested in a copy of my program, let me know in the comments section.  Possibly we can plan some way that I can send them to you with violating your privacy or mine.

Good luck!!!!! (What am I saying?? Luck has nothing to do with it--YOU are in control--keep telling yourself that {it will be tough to remember sometimes.....})

Answer 2

It's a little bit of sibling rivalry....she is doing it for attention,.  Find some time to spend alone with her....out of the house...this will pass.  Reward her for being a "big sister".  Tell her we can go to the ___ park etc. if you don't have an accident....it will change.  good luck! (psychologist)

Answer 3

  There is a whole lot that could be going on.  Anything change in routine?  Is the younger one being potty trained?  They may want to be the "baby" again.  Is the day just so full of activities and fun that maybe they are too busy to go potty?  That was my last child's issue.  No one can say it is not for attention.  Only you being mom would really know.  Go with your gut and I agree with the refresher in potty training as it can help long as you are not getting too upset.  Good luck!

Answer 4

I would consult a doctor, maybe the doctor can find out a possible explanation. Maybe you need to try and teach her again. Maybe the younger daughter has an influence on the older.

I don't think it's for attention...

Best of luck. I can see why it's driving you crazy. 5 times a day is a lot. And if she has already been potty trained, she should still know how. Consult the doctor soon, try and teach her again, possibly tell her that if she needs attention, ask mommy, and don't yaknow, pee on yourself. Good luck once again. (:

Answer 5

try letting him go to da docter

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Answer 6

My experience is having two daughters 9 years old and the other 2 and 8 months. My youngest is already toilet trained.  It takes patience and understanding.  You must firstly monitor the amount of liquid intake and see how long it takes them after drinking to use the bathroom.  Simply ask do you have to go to the bathroom, by doing this you are training there minds to along with their system to go periodically by way of reminding them.  Secondly, dont make going to the bathroom a bad experience then you will encourage anxiety based on your reaction.  It should be encouraged, patient and fun like.  At times I would race who will go first, or on your mark - get set - go method etc. It may seem weird but my children are trained.  Lastly, your child can experience regression because of the new sibiling.  All attention is focused on the baby and the other child is needy of you also.  You will have to learn to be more conscious of how you relate to each and demonstrate how special both children are and then slowly wean into the independence factor.  Hope this was helpful.  If the child is using the bathroom three or more times within an hour then yes I would look into the beginning stages of a bladder problem surfacing. If it wasn't there initially then treat it for a period of time for need of personal attention.

Answer 7

you may want to take her to the doctor. sounds like it could be a bladder infection to me...

Answer 8

could be a bladder infection. i had a student in my class that went from being potty trained for a year! to all of a sudden having accidents at school (and not seeming to even notice!). her mother took her to the doctor and turned out she had a bladder infection.

definitely take her to the doctor first to rule out any medical problems!