He makes me feel as if I should just go away or he doesn't want to be around me at all. If I go to give him a big hug when I come home from work, I just get the feeling he doesn't want me to. If I go to give him a kiss good night, I sometimes get the feeling he's not into it. He used to be very affectionate and passionate. Now, it seems the passion has gone and he's rarely affectionate. He barely touches me. I tried to 'make -plans' for a fall vacation today over dinner and he said he was sick of hearing me talk and just wanted quiet. It depressed me because I felt as if I can't even make plans with him or discuss anything. We don't plan anything fun for the weekends. There doesn't seem to be much of anything to look forward to because he never wants to do anything. Things are getting stale and boring and I am getting edgy and arguing over stupid things because I feel as if our relationship consists of chores and that's it other than him wanting to be 'away' from me. It is depressing me. I don't feel like there is any spontanaity or fun in this relationship. When I tried to plan the vacation, I suggested Montana. He said the plane ride is too much money. I asked how he knows. He said he knows because he was planning to move there to get away from me. He almost said I should go on vaction without him. What's the point of having a boyfriend if he never wants to do anything with you and he just wants to be away from you and he is never affectionate or passionate. What happened to our relationship? It wasn't always like this. Is this what happens after being with someone for five years? What happened? If he truely doesn't want to be with me then why did he get engaged? What is going on here? I am so confused. He proposed and then he makes me feel as if he wants nothing to do with me. I give him plenty of space and I try very hard not to be clingy. I allow him plenty of time with his friends. In fact, I tried to completely stop 'trying' to see if things would change. I was hardly ever home and did my own thing, I didn't call him. I was hoping he would miss me and come around. I was hoping he would make plans to do someting fun with me. I was trying the 'absense makes the heart grow fonder' approach. I tried everything. Talking about it, then yelling, then just leaving him be. But I saw no change. I 'left him be' to the point where he hardly saw me and then tried to make plans to do something. His response was 'can't I get some time to myself.' He had days to himself. He said he sees me at night when we sleep and that's enough. I am so hurt and sad and confused and I just wonder what happened to the wonderful man I met. The man that adored and loved me. Was it all a lie? Is it normal for a relationship to feel like this after five years? Is he just bored of me? what is going on?
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