My 3yr old will not give up her pacifer, plez help......?

Question

My daughter just turned 3 in feb. and she refuses to give up her pacifer (or bonka, as we call it). It is driving me crazy. It makes her breath stink, even though I brush it with toothpaste every time we brush he teeth. I have tried the "you need to be a big girl thing".... don't work. I have tried to have her trade it to Santa, the Easter bunny, other little babies.... she just wont gie it up. She did give it up for about 6 months though, then when she was hospitilized she got it back again. She also, knows that she is to big for the bonka because she hides it when other people come around, because she don't want them to think she is a baby. Also, I noticed that when I was brushing her teeth the other day.... her front teeth don't touch the bottom when I tell her to put her teeth together. I dont want her to have bad teeth, so pleez help...........................

Answer 1

Throw it in the trash, seriously take control of the situation and throw it in the trash.  If she doesn't have one to use then guess what she can't use it right and eventually she will move on and find something else.  That is why pediatricians want them gone by 6 months or atleast no later than 12 months old.  The sooner you get rid of it the better.  Just take it from her and throw it in the trash.

Answer 2

you'll have to wean her off it, start with not when we go out of the house, then move to only at bed time. then you can make a story about a bonka fairy who has a beautiful caslte made all out of bonka's (maybe you could draw pictures of it together?), and maybe say that a naughty giant made a whole in the side of the wall and she needs a new bonka to fix it....  in return she will leave a chocolate/present/penny under her pillow. IF  it works you have got to get every single one a throw it away, if you haven't got any at all, and yes she will have tantrums, you can blame the fairy that took them all away!!! good luck!!

Answer 3

Cut a hole in it......she will be unset, but don't buy another one

Good Luck....

Answer 4

the best thing to do is just take it off her n throw it away, your have 1 week of h**l n then she will forget all about it, maybe tell her that on the wkend u n her are going to go out shopping to find something to replace the pacifer eg dolly, teddy,blanket or something and let her pick wat she wants to replace it, then if u can get her to throw the pacifer away, worked 4 me!!

Answer 5

You can kiss my butt

Answer 6

Just throw it out and don't be tempted to buy another one.  My daughter was 17 mons. when I did it and after a week, she forgot all about it.  You have to be strong and don't give in!  BTW, my friend who is a dentist, said 3 yrs. is fine, but of course depending on genetics.  

Not only is it for health reasons, but also gives them a chance to talk more.

Answer 7

i would get one of the soother holder clip thingies and clip it to her pillow, so she only has it at night.

if she asks for it during the day, tell her it lives in bed, if she wants it, she has to go to bed...

she'll soon forget about it!

as she gets used to not having it during the day, you could swap it for a new teddy or something for bedtime.

make a big thing of it, let her choose the new item and give bonka to someone with a baby (tell them the story, so they can trash it after you have gone!)

Answer 8

My kids threw out there pacifers the selfs. When she is maybe sleeping take it and maybe hind it and when she asks for it be like you had it. And if that doesnt work tell it to her you cant have this no more or pretend that you tell ur friend oh my daughter still has a pacifer and then she will prob. throw it out. When i was little i drank out of a bottle when i was 6 years old but then i gave it up. And my teeth are perfect and plus im a dentist.

Answer 9

jus hide all the pacifires

Answer 10

Take it and put it away where she can't find it. Out of sight out of mind. My girl only has hers at nap time or when shes sleeping. She hides it herself during the day. The other night she slept all night without it. We're tryin gto wein her off it so i hid it earlier today and she hasn't had it even for nap time. I hope by next week she'll forget about it. Shes not quite 2. My two boys threw theirs away themselves because my oldest had bit a hole in his while teething at 6 mos so I gave him an orthopedic Pacifier and he didn't like it at all because the nipple was so small so he gave it up. Good luck

Answer 11

I'm a big fan of letting her do it herself. She really won't cause any damage to her teeth until her permanent teeth come in. The more you press, the more she'll resist. It's an element of control for her - something that she possesses and gets to decide when she needs it. My daughter (3) just gave hers up recently - almost by accident. We were out at hubby's baseball game and she lost hers, it was our last one. I had told her before that we wouldn't be able to get any more. She didn't throw a fit when we didn't have anymore, a HUGE clue that SHE was ready. That first night without it was fine and then she fell the next day and skinned her knee. She was crying really hard and when hubby asked her what she needed she said "I just need something to suck on daddy!" So we had a few lollipops as a replacement and w/in a few days, those were unecessary too. So don't push so hard - that will make it more tramautic for her - I can still remember when my dad threw my beloved blankie in the trash - I was 4. Bad teeth (a remote possibility) are correctable - angst and trauma aren't as easily done so....relax! (and she will too-not feeling like you're hovering, trying to take the binky at any moment)

AND - do NOT do it like the first person said and throw it in the trash.....how would you feel if another person decided that you were done RIGHT NOW with something that brought you comfort and snatched it away? Not good....

Answer 12

i have 3 kids and only one ever used a pacifier but the one that did i just took it and tossed it out she will get over it faster then you think

Answer 13

I'd throw it away.  Don't hide it because you might give it back to pacify her and get her to be quiet.  I've also heard of cutting a little off the end, then cutting a little more each day until it doesn't really work anymore.  That being said, I'd still just toss it.  She can't cry forever.  Good luck.

Answer 14

It's comfort or security behaviour. Encourage her to do other activities to keep her mind off the pacifier.

Try swiping a little bit white vinegar  ( it harmless) on the surface of the pacifier. Kids hate sour taste and nasty smell. She will splits it out. Repeat a few more times. She won't want to have that taste in her mouth. She won't want to have the pacifier anymore as the taste of the pacifier register in her mind has changed.