My 4 month old baby's dad wants to move to another country...?

Question

on his own, there is apparently a good job there. now if he goes, should i let him see our daughter say once a year or so if he comes to england or should i break all contact and just let her find him if she wants when she's old enough? or something else? what is kinder?

Answer 1

If the dad really loved her, he would have stay with you. Plus why england? Everyone knows America has the most jobs ever. I say let her see her when she's old enough.

Answer 2

I would never suggest taking child away from their father if he still wants to be a part of their life. There are too many fathers out here that don't care either way so if he wants to be a part of his daughter's life then let him. A couple of days a year will not hurt you or anyone else for that matter, and I'm sure that with him having a better job will benefit you and your daughter more.

Answer 3

I think you should let him see his daughter. Everybody has a right to see their children. However as it is him moving away, he should make the effort to come back to England. If she grows up and realises you mad no effort to keep her in contact with her dad, she might be very angry and not want to see you for a while.Good Luck x

Answer 4

atleast he's not trying to take her away from you, try to look at the good angle of things, just try, this is discouraging i know.. she wil later deal with it on her own and the problems that come along with aparent abandoning you until she's old enough to understand yeah "it happens" keep the door open for him regarding your daughter, because she will thank you later in her life and not get pissed at you, even though u do want to protect her..good luck

Answer 5

I think it is very hard on your child but I would still let him visit her.  I would keep a close eye on them though in case he tries to take her out of the country.  It happens!

Answer 6

I've got the same problem, i decided that if he left he doesn't deserve to see her and when she was older would decide for herself if she wanted to see him or not. i dont think its fair on a child to only see there father once a year.

Answer 7

why isnt he taking you guys with him?

as she gets older shes going to ask about him, if he moves, (im sensing that you are not together) and still helps you out financially, when and if he comes to town, yes, you should allow them to see one another.

Its a funny thing about men sometimes, they think they can pick up and move and continue on with their life without looking back, meanwhile, you have a child to consider and cant just pick up and move as easily as they can, sometimes men are so selfish.

No you dont beg him to stay! if he' wants to leave nothing can make him stay!

you already said he isnt good for her, let him leave and do whats best for him, he isnt thinking about you or your daughter, so you need to stop thinking of him and start thinking of yourself and your daughter, let him go.leave him alone.