My 4 year old accidentally saw a s*x video -?

Question

My 4 year old accidentally saw a s*x video and told his Grandma (my Mom) about it - So now, my mother is freaking out about it and thinks he is traumatized for life. Any suggestions on how to deal with this?

Answer 1

I agree at 4 he won't remember what he watched and hide the video like at the top shelf of the closet.  That's where mine are.  lol

Answer 2

depending on what he saw and how long he probably will be traumatized maybe not for life but for a LOOONG time

Answer 3

Although I'm not sure how far they went in the video/pictures, but you could explain to him that only doctors and spouses are supposed to see another person's parts. Don't freak out about it, and ask your mother not to freak out about it. Ask her to help you and support you in teaching him the appropriate values and morals and explain what to do when he does bring it up. Also try to distract him from this, (like when a child says curse words if you make a fuss over it they get attention and therefore a reward for that, even if it's a negative reward) change the subject to something more interesting to him when he brings it up, telling him you'll talk about it at a later time (when it is a more appropriate time and when he and whoever does "the talk" is ready for it). Also if he brings it up, you can say that was stupid of the computer and people to do those things outside of marriage or a doctor's office because those are private things and private parts no one else should see. Keep reinforcing this whenever the subject is brought up and then change the subject. When he and the person going to do "the talk" are ready, it should be done calmly without the parent (or anyone else) freaking out.

Even if he does remember it years later, I remember seeing animals mating when I was a child and being given an encyclopedia and told I could look at that but  these things didn't traumatize me and no called cps on my parents for me having knowledge.

Also work on his embellishing the truth and teaching him that lying is wrong too.

Answer 4

Indeed be more careful about where you lie such tapes however, we are all humans that makes mistakes. It's how we correct them is the issue. In actuality, 4 year olds are not to young to learn about s*x.

You sit him down, tell him what they were doing was not right and if someone ever do him like that or try to do him like that he tell them no and that he is going to tell his mom and dad. Tell him that you will protect him from that person and put that person in jail cause you don't want him to ever be hurt like that. Let him know you love him and you will hurt him if anyone try to do that to him.

Let me tell you a story. I have 6 children and 7 adoptive children. Unfortunately my adoptive children was already traumatize from being molested some worse than others and some will do really well.

My biological children was taught before starting school what is inappropiate touching. Well my second son, a 34 year old man which I grew up with and was always known as one of my cousins tried to touch him inappropiately. He was only 4 years old at the time. He told him no don't do that, I'm telling my mom and he left him alone. The next morning in front of this man, my son said, "Mom, Marty tried to touch my peepee!" He stupidly said, what was you doing. And my son screamed at him and said, I was sleeping.

I made this idiot leave my house, God works in mysterious ways, he was riding his bike and died of a heart attact at a very young age.

You must understand kids get molested at any and all ages and we need to protect them. This may be a blessing in disguise. Teach him that that behavior in unjust...Good Blessings with your little one.

Forget it's hard to tell. I can remember things from 3 years old and so can my children. Think about how far you can think back. I remember going to this lady house (not knowing how old I was) being able to see the ground from inside of her house. I remember asking God why he let her live like this and why do you let her not walk. I cried cause I was hurt due to her condition. My mom told me when I was older who she was, which was my cousin and that she died when I was 3. Kids are even smarter now.

Answer 5

his 4yrs old, he will forget. just keep him busy with other things. it will pass.

Answer 6

First of all, make it less easy for children to access s*x videos. Don't even try to explain s*x yet to him, he's only 4. Just get him occupied with something else to get his mind off of it.

Answer 7

it happens dont worry about it