My 4 year old bit me?

Question

It's silly but I feel hurt and upset about it...it was becasue she fell over and banged her head..when I picked her up she bit me so hard that the skin broke...she's never bitten before...but she has been getting naughtier and naughtier lately...I can't work out why. Her gran stayed with us for 2 months and her gran spoils her a lot..shje went back home the other day..could this have something to do with it? I also had a baby 5 months ago...my daughter has been doing stuff like delibrately dropping juice on the carpet and spitting....she isnt in daycare, I am a stay at home Mum...I give her a lot of attention and she socialises regularly...shes on summer holidays from her Nursery school at the mo...last term they gave her a really good report..I feel like I am losing her somehow...like she's getting a bit uncontrollable. She is terribly bossy...if I say "no" she says "I will anyway"..it;s like having a teenager...DONT suggest I hit her or bite her back...I was never hit as a child and I turned out fine...I just dont know WHY she is behaving so badly.

Answer 1

get down on her level and tell her that biting is not allowed or the other behavior.tell her that she will have to sit on the notty spot for the #mins of her age. If she gets up keep getting up keep putting her back on the spot.make a list of rules and stick to them.Sounds like wants rules.

Answer 2

"DONT suggest I hit her or bite her back...I was never hit as a child and I turned out fine.."

Your child isn't you and may need it.

Time outs and taking away privileges won't work here.

Answer 3

hand to bum and repeat if necessary

Answer 4

My son did this to his father once.  He got a smack and he has never done it again.

Answer 5

just keep being constant, don't get mad. Kids really get upset when you become indifferent they think you don't care about them anymore and that really stings more than any smack on the bottom. You'll find the right thing to take away eventually she won't have anything left ;-))But it does work. My daughter is four next week =. My wife just took away her Princess CD player for misbehaving, she hit her mom, anyways it got her thinking and she asked her Mom if when she was younger did  she do something bad  and her mom take away her CD player?? I think this shows that she is learning that her actions have repercussions and its not random.

Answer 6

hmm she's quite old for that to start now! it sounds like its probably nans absence that has triggered it... what did you do when she bit you? because she is old enough to know right and wrong and you have got to put your foot down!  i advise getting a sand timer. when ever she does something unacceptable you have to sit her down somewhere quite, like the foot of the stairs or doorstep maybe, and calmy explain that you are not having that kind of behaviour. turn the timer and say when its finished she can get up, apologise, and have a cuddle.  

next time shes rude to you, tell her that its very rude and you will wait until she asks properly.  when she talks to you like it again, ignore her.  she knows the rules and she is testing you.  i know this is easy to say, but dont get mad. sit her on the step.

Answer 7

lol @ "I turned out fine."

Answer 8

my 3 year old girl bit me and it made me bleed the first time i just told her off but she did it again so i bit her back not hard but enought to shock her , i no thats not what you want to here but it works your the boss not the child . dont let your daughter run rings around you cos the little bugger are good at that , lol  

Answer 9

They're kids...

What do you expect?

When they grow up you'll think of it as cute...

CURSE YOU MOTHER...

Answer 10

Aw man, I'm so sorry. That must be hard to deal with. I had to take care of my sister's daughter, and she acted like that. I was glad when my sister got her back, tee hee hee. I suggested just trying to calmly tald to her. If she screams, or pouts, TRY your best to calm her down. I understand how nice and caring you want to be, and there is no need to hit her, but you are the MOM, like, you are the BOSS. You can yell at her and she will soon become more understanding. It takes time, I know. If she continues to misbehave, or even spill things like you said, ignore her. Completly ignore her for a long time, and if she screams for food or candy, just say: "No". If she still trys to take things, and STILL misbehaves, that's when you really need to take action. First, you give her time-out, like, make her stay in her room, and if she gets out, hopefully you can carry her back into her room. Then, it's time to take away toys, and T.V. and other activites, away. Take away something precious, and hide it, so she can't get to it. Don't give it back until she behaves, or says she is sorry. You have to teach her not to do bad things, and when she yells, or BITES you, you have to litterly yell at her, and say things like: "That's a big no-no, or, I don't except that in this house, missy..." You know what to do. Don't let her control you. You're them mom, you're the boss. If she threatens her baby brother in ANY way, like spill juice on him, or spit on him, that's when daycare has to come around, or even concils. You have to be mad at her, and not let that slide, or don't just go like: "Oh, please don't do that again." She can even kill the brother, if not careful. Its sad, but you never know what could happen. Never hurt her, but you can yell at her until she gets the point.

I did these things to my sister's daughter, and it worked. In a couple weeks she would hug you instead of yell at you for no reason. I hope I helped, and good luck!!!!!! Trust me, once she gets older and goes to school and such, she'll change and become better. Just remember the rules, and you'll do great.