My 4 year old daughter doesnt want to be potty trained?

Question

shes turning 4 on august 24th. she had some speech developmental delay for a few years. She started preschool for kids her age is doing well. But we been struggling potty training for a long time now and she just doesnt want to do it. Basically she wont tell me when she has to go, doesnt even know if she does need to go. she just doesnt get the cues of wanting to go pee or p**p. i have to put her on the toilet in her bathroom and she will stay there for a few seconds and then go pee. there has been a few times she has gone p**p and pee on the toilet and on the potty. but its still not accomplished. im trying to get her fully potty trained but nothing works. Not even rewards, she just doesnt care and is stubborn. she goes into LA LA land when she sits in front of the tv with her potty or if she is wearing underwear and standing infront of the tv she goes pee and doesnt even know she did or tell me. she knows i get mad and says i have to go to bathroom not diaper. but she still wont!HELP

Answer 1

My 3 year old daughter was the same way, she was extremely stubborn and i only recently got her fully daytime potty trained.  It was hard.  I started training when she was 2 1/2 but she showed no interest not even with rewards, when she turned 3, she was the same, so I put my foot down, and I brought her to my parents' house, with no diapers and told her I forgot her diapers and only brought underwear.  It took a week of many many accidents but she caught on.  The best thing to do is just tell her you don't have any more diapers and stick to it.  Also get a timer and put her on the potty every 30 mins even if she doesn't have to go.  Make it a routine.  Also my daughter hated the little potty chairs,  I got her a Elmo cushion seat for the toilet and she likes that.

Answer 2

Some kids are just slower. It's more common in boys, but maybe girls also. My nephew didn't want to be potty trained and he was going on 4, we got sick of trying with negative results, so we stopped! All of a sudden he would take off his own pull up b/c it was dirty! We wouldn't change his pull up if he got dirty for about 30 min, he would start feeling uncomfortable until he gave up and thank God he is now fully potty trained (Age 4 1/2). YOU NEED TO LET HER BE AND SHE WILL GUIDE YOU THROUGH HER OWN POTTY TRAINING. Encourage her with books, movies (Elmo has some pretty good ones).  If she doesn't become potty trained by age 5 then you need to consult your pediatrician, but I doubt this since I already went through this. Good Luck!

P.S Everyone is different!

Answer 3

Ask your doc for suggestions.   Does she have more developmental delays other than speech or is she REALLY just being stubborn?   Try taking her to the potty every 20 min.  Don't ask, just do.  If she throws a tantrum, then don't push.  Best of Luck as I'm going through this too with my almost 3 year old.

Edit:  What about a potty training video or class?  I know the bigger cities where I live actually have classes.  It can be costly though.

Answer 4

make it fun for her...give her rewards if she uses the potty..Be creative!!!

Answer 5

4, that,s not good, school is just around the corner, so you best get that under control or they won,t allow her to go to kindergarten. I say tough love, but that,s only my opinion, I would never have let it go on this long.

We love our children, but really we have to do what is best for them, even it includes alot of hurt feelings & screams.

Answer 6

i think maybe you should have started training her at the age of 2 1/2. dont let her watch tv until she goes to the bathroom. maybe take stuff away from her until she starts going by herself. she will get the picture.