My 4 year old masturbating???

Question

I am going through a divorce. Me and my soon to be ex are sharing my 2 boys. I recently caught my 4 yr old masturbating, not the normal pull on it tug it thing but actually doing what you see adults do. I questioned him about where he learned that in a very nice way and he said his dad. When I told his dad he laughed thought it was funny and didn't see a need in talking about it to him. My ex had an addiction to his self, even if he got some every day he still had to do it his self. sometimes when the boys were awake( came home from work early and caught him watching girls gone wild while loving his self with the boys awake 1 room over). What do I do?? Is this normal??? He does it in front of his little brother. His dad wont take it serious. Any advise??

Answer 1

Thats seuxaly abuse. It doesn't take contact. But who know what else is happening. Maybe he likes to be caught.

Have your children evaluated. Try not to talk to them to much about it before hand, but be open to listen, you words like "then what happened?". You influence might cloud their memories. Ask your doc for a referal to a good cihld psych.

It's not normal and it needs to stop.

Answer 2

wow, sounds like a form of sexual abuse, it is rather normal for little boys to play with them selves, but to have seen dad doing it or movies way beyond his age, is not good ... you could have a real problem on your hands in the future, you need to talk to you husband, you son you need to talk to him i a very nice normal way about it but explain to him it is normal to want to do this but he needs to do it on his own private time.... in bed in the shower, sometime where he is alone... I would bring this into a custody battle you dont want your little boys to develop prob so early in life...

Answer 3

You should make him wear a steel body suit with a lock on it to keep him from touching his business.  If anyone asks, just tell them it's an outfit for a school play.

I'd seek the advice of a pediatrition too.

Answer 4

I hope you get full custody, Mom. He may only be imitating what his dad is doing, and not trying to achieve sexual gratification, but there are other issues you mentioned that are going to lead those boys to a bad place.

Answer 5

It is perfectly normal. Little kids, and even babies, have sexual feelings. They only know that what they're doing feels good -- they're not fantasizing about naked women or anything. You do need to let your son know that it's not okay to do this in public, and it's not okay to do this in front of everyone. Don't make him ashamed, but try to find a way to tell him he shouldn't do it in front of his little brother. And make sure he washes his hands afterward, as private parts are not the most clean things.

Answer 6

report it to social service so you can have custody of both kids.

Answer 7

I have a 4 years old son, and he has never tried anything like that. I don't think he would! I think something else may be going on.

Answer 8

um yes i would this sounds more like a possible sexual abuse issue in the future if not already I would definitly take him to someone first and get the proof in writing then its as good as Gold having the proof there isnt anything to fight. Your son to be EX will not take it seriously because he doesnt take his addiction seriously. Get the kids out before your son sees anymore then he already has and has the same issues your ex has!!!

Answer 9

That is bizarre -- you need to get this checked out. Take your boys to a counselor and call your lawyer. Your boys should not be watching your ex m********e; they should not have access to p**n. What do you think they are going to do when they get to school? They are going to be the kids that all the other parents report because they are trying things on the girls because that's what their daddy does.

It's abuse.

Answer 10

I agree with the other guy. Report this to child services.

Clearly your ex is masturbating in front of the child. How long before he starts "helping" your son or asking for "help" himself?

My wife went through this with her father. It has been damaging for 30 years. Take care of this problem NOW.

Answer 11

Yes, you can certainly and should bring it up in court, adults having s*x (by themselves or with someone) in front of a child is considered sexual misconduct in the eyes of the law.  

This man clearly has a s*x addiction and should not be allowed unsupervised visits with your sons.  If you can't do it yourself report him to child protective services and get a case opened there.