My 42 yr. old mom dates 19 &20 yr. old guys should I say something?

Question

She goes out to dance wearing mini skirts and purple lipstick and she comes home at 4 or 6 in the morning when my brothers and I are asleep. She even goes on dates and talks on the phone daily with them.

I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 21, I don't know which is worse, that she goes out with guys younger than my bf or that they look as old as me.

I haven't told her anything, but it's really embarassing. She says she wants to find a man to support her, but how can she when she's wasting her time with little boys?

Should I say something

Answer 1

Yes, you should say something. Your mom lives in denial, believing she's still in her 20-somethings. These toy-bums make her feel good and people giggle behind her back, you are embarassed, and rightly so.

Bring a bf of 40 home one night after 3am, (just a psychological ploy to which he is a willing party) and see how mom freaks out.

Answer 2

I'm not gonna preach to you what you should or shouldn't do.  It's up to you, but here is a reason why your mom might be going after younger males......

Generally, each woman is different in what she craves in life.  From 50 year old hikers, bikers, mountain climbers, to stay at homes moms crocheting away with their needles.  

Your mom seems like the adventurous kind of person, am I right?  I'm guessing she doesn't like to sit around all day watching TV for 4 hours, or chatting online with people.  She probably doesn't just sitting on her steps watching clouds go by.   (Could already guess that from her being out past midnight)

With that said, generally as men(even probably women) grow older we lose our desire for adventure.  Granted there are some very very active men and woman, but when was the last time you've seen a commercial advertise sky diving with 50yr old moms or advertise rockclimbing for elderly, etc etc.  

Your mom probably dates very young males (although still legally adults) becausethey bring that spice into her life that the avg 35-40 year old male can't.  30+ yr olds at night clubs is a rare site.  

Maybe instead of debating if what your mom is doing is "right" or "wrong" morally, instead talk to her about how shes being dishonest to you.  (not judging you or demanding you to, just suggesting)  

I solely 100% agree with you hands down, if you're mom is looking for a man to take care of her, 18-22 is definitely not the age.  You may not be able to change who she is or what makes her happy, but you can at least change the relation between you and your moms to a healthy honest one.  

Sorry so long and sorry if i offended you if I did in any way.

Answer 3

Yes. Youngest one can date is half their age, plus 7. So, in your mom's case, 28 is minimum.

Answer 4

Tell your mom how you feel. Let her know that "Sharing is Caring".

Answer 5

you can but she's still going to do what ever she wants she's just going thru this thing i dont even know what to call it but i think all middle age woman go thru give her her space i think she'll get over it and start dating men closer to her age. good luck

Answer 6

it's her life and if they are over 18 then it's none of your bizness.  guys do that so why should you care about her doing it just coz she's a woman?

Answer 7

yeah i would...

that's really wrong.

rocking the cradle much?

Answer 8

Ha! Your mom is a cougar! If you don't like it, you're an adult, get out of the house! She's not going to change her ways just because you don't like her actions.