My 4yr old broke his arm?

Question

At my husbands house. My daughter said that it is because their dad made them go outside when his girlfriend came over and then my son got up in the tree by standing on a chair and fell. I dont blam their dad for our son getting on the tree but I am upset that he made a 7yr old babysit a 4yr old just so he can have his girlfriend over, when the kids could of stayed inside and watched tv or something.Now we are fighting over it. I feel for my kids I should apoligies, so that they can have a okay relationship with him, but I still dont want them to go over their because he might now be watching them, WHat should I do?I dont want them over their, and I dont really want to apoligized but I have to. Please help

Answer 1

sorry but Patty isn't the one who is nuts. I read your other questions and at one point you say you have a 4 month old with white stuff in her diaper and that was one month ago but in your profile you say you have a 7 yr old 4 yr old and 16 day old.

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here in this next one you have an 8 yr old son

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in this next one posted one month ago you have a 3 month old and 2 yr old LOL

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Why do you put info in your profile and then make posts that contradict that? I guess you didn't think about that huh?

and here you are a month ago with 5 yr old twins!

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Answer 2

That's wrong! Talk to their dad!

Answer 3

Is that in English?  Your spelling and grammar are so poor I can barely read the question.

You should get over it and apologize.  Accidents happen, and the incident didn't necessarily happen as your 7 year old reported it.

Part of being a responsible parent is learning that accidents happen, and it's a waste of time to place blame.

Answer 4

I don't think there's anything wrong with the dad making the children play outside for a while. It's good for kids now-a-days to peel their faces off the tv's. However, it depends on the extent of time he made them play outside, and whether he did it just to get them out of their hair or just simply have some time for some nookie. Honestly, knowing the minor details I do of your situation, I don't see anything wrong with what happened. Kids will be kids and things like this happen.

Answer 5

Yeah, Patty seems a bit nuts, but I did read your prior questions and it seems like you have more than 3 kids or you share this with another adult.

Firstly, are you still married?  You refer to him as your husband.  Separated?  Then try to get full custody.  Don't apologize, this is HIS fault.  If he sends the kids off when his girlfriend is over, god knows what else he isn't doing.  When you go for the custody battle you can mention this accident.

Answer 6

My son broke his arm when he was 2. We were at home and he fell half way down the stairs. Accidents happen wherever they are or who they're with. Your son could have fallen even if his Dad was outside with him or even if you were with him.

Answer 7

you don't have to apologize to your children, but if they seemed worried about your fighting with your ex i you can just tell them you think the accident could have been prevented by him

and if you want your children to have an okay relationship with their dad don't stop them from going to his house, but maybe you should tell him you don't feel as comfortable allowing them there anymore and  that you a 7 yr old shouldn't be responsible for watching a 4 yr old so he can have quality time with his girlfriend...if she's that important to him she can either go over when the kids aren't there or maybe get to know his kids

Answer 8

Why should you apologize for an accident that happened while the children were in his custody?

He was totally in the wrong for not properly supervising his children while his girlfriend was over his house.  He's wrong and feeling guilty about it by making you somehow feel guilty.

You have nothing to apologize for - he does!